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DONT HAVE KIDS! You might have a boy!


I think the odds are 50/50...

What about the odds for the other 36 genders ?

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Not going to lie. We got a Basenji puppy last February. I find raising this dog has been more trying and difficult than either kid we have had. Fucker tries my patience on a daily basis lol. Kids love him though. Maybe that's a drawback to having kids in that it will lead to a dog because they want one and you end up having to take care of it.

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So instead of 0.01% it is 0.02%

That's a 100% greater chance!

DONT HAVE KIDS! You might have a boy!



Yea it's the same garbage as the increased chance of birth defects at 35. People like to be alarmists about statistics.

News flash, if someone offered you a service that could make it 1000x more likely for you to win 649 your chances of not winning is still roughly around 99.99286%. So yea, always take a step back when you hear someone throwing stats around.

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Not going to lie. We got a Basenji puppy last February. I find raising this dog has been more trying and difficult than either kid we have had. Fucker tries my patience on a daily basis lol. Kids love him though. Maybe that's a drawback to having kids in that it will lead to a dog because they want one and you end up having to take care of it.


I have no kids, but 2 dogs (raised since 7-8 weeks old), and I feel like dogs are much easier to raise than kids ever would. It's interesting to hear that you feel the opposite; that puppy must be doing some crazy stuff lol.

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You guys realize you can just lock a dog in a box for a few hours. Legally.

Or tie it to a tree when you are having a bbq.

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You guys realize you can just lock a dog in a box for a few hours. Legally.

Or tie it to a tree when you are having a bbq.



Legally you can still use a choker, prong collar and smack your dog... but some people have morals

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Just saying, I would say most people do those exact two things with their dogs on a regular basis.

You ever do that to your kids?

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Just saying, I would say most people do those exact two things with their dogs on a regular basis.

You ever do that to your kids?



the way i see it is that with kids, eventually they learn how to walk themselves and i stop having to pick up their shit. you gotta do that forever with a dog. haha.

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Just saying, I would say most people do those exact two things with their dogs on a regular basis.

You ever do that to your kids?



(I don't have kids) but you can put them in a corner with an iPad and pretty much not have to worry about them as many parents seem to do these days haha

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Kids can't seem to go anywhere without a tablet in their face anymore, I wonder what that generation will be like in their 20s

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I have no kids, but 2 dogs (raised since 7-8 weeks old), and I feel like dogs are much easier to raise than kids ever would. It's interesting to hear that you feel the opposite; that puppy must be doing some crazy stuff lol.



After 2 years or so I no longer have to deal with the poop my kids make.

And for the first 2 years I don't have to go outside when they need to poop.

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Kids can't seem to go anywhere without a tablet in their face anymore, I wonder what that generation will be like in their 20s



That's bad parenting... and has nothing to do with "kids today".

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That's bad parenting... and has nothing to do with "kids today".

Agreed.
Of all my failings as a parent, at least you won't see my kids looking at a phone or tablet in public. 20 minutes per weekday if they achieve certain goals, and in the car on drives longer than 60 minutes.

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That's bad parenting... and has nothing to do with "kids today".



I don't envy current parents and the next generation of parents trying to find the right balance with computers. As I've started to notice the ability to interface effectively with computers is key to most technical jobs these days. Being able to interface with computers like they are an extension of your body and manipulate software through coding to do exactly what you want i think will be key to landing good paying jobs in the future.

Even things as simple as excel skills. I find the older generation thinks that being able to write a formula and auto fill it down a column shows good excel skills when in reality if you can't write logic statements, make things like pivot tables and write excel macros then you have no business putting proficient in excel on your resume!

You have to balance a fine line between depriving your child of experiences in the real world and depriving them of important skills they'll need later in life.

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May not match other people's experiences but here goes:

Unless kids have physical or mental deformity, nobody ever regret having them until they are into teens and young adults. Even with physical or metal deformity, the regret is more like guilt in bringing them into the world and not rejecting or not loving them. If you don't love your kids (aka made from your batter) before they hit teens, you need to have your mental state checked out.

Once they hit high school age and rebellion phase, 50% of people I know started to have regrets.

Once they hit adulthood, regret tends to tied to how successful they are in life. And how well you take your kids' success or failure, perceived or otherwise. Some parents handle it well, but I see a lot who don't. Asian and South Asian tends to take it much harder than Caucasians.

Then in old age and about to kick the bucket, I see some with regret NOT having kids. I also see some regret having kids who stop caring about them. The rest is indifferent or have kids that is taking care of them well. I see that as 33% split across these 3 groups.

TLDR,

There is a 33% chance you will NOT regret having kids for a single minute from the second you had them until you kick the bucket.

Again, regret doesn't mean they don't love their kids. Just given a do over, for anyone in their 60s and 70s, at least half probably won't have kids again.

Not scientific in any way, just observation from people I know ages from 80s down to 30s, from new parents to seasoned grand parents.

Just be thankful that we live in a time where social pressure of having kids are lessen and it's actually a respected choice either way.

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I don't envy current parents and the next generation of parents trying to find the right balance with computers. As I've started to notice the ability to interface effectively with computers is key to most technical jobs these days. Being able to interface with computers like they are an extension of your body and manipulate software through coding to do exactly what you want i think will be key to landing good paying jobs in the future.

Even things as simple as excel skills. I find the older generation thinks that being able to write a formula and auto fill it down a column shows good excel skills when in reality if you can't write logic statements, make things like pivot tables and write excel macros then you have no business putting proficient in excel on your resume!

You have to balance a fine line between depriving your child of experiences in the real world and depriving them of important skills they'll need later in life.


The balance isn't tough IMO. Kids using tablets to interact such as playing games where they learn new shit is OK, while mindless YouTube watching isn't. The tough part is figuring out when they transition from one to another without being a helicopter parent. I grew up with electronics as a babysitter. Luckily back in the day there wasn't much where I could veg or zombie out and was forced to learn. Worked out well for me.

Now if the kids can actually translate those skills in the real world when they get older is really just a guess at this point. For all we know we'll be replaced by robots and get paid mincome in 20 years and the skills are completely uselsss.

YMMV of course.

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I'd have 10 kids if I could afford it and my wife would let me impregnate her that much.

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I'd have 10 kids if I could afford it and my wife would let me impregnate her that much.



Haha man she would be wrecked after that. Kinda gross

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