May not match other people's experiences but here goes:
Unless kids have physical or mental deformity, nobody ever regret having them until they are into teens and young adults. Even with physical or metal deformity, the regret is more like guilt in bringing them into the world and not rejecting or not loving them. If you don't love your kids (aka made from your batter) before they hit teens, you need to have your mental state checked out.
Once they hit high school age and rebellion phase, 50% of people I know started to have regrets.
Once they hit adulthood, regret tends to tied to how successful they are in life. And how well you take your kids' success or failure, perceived or otherwise. Some parents handle it well, but I see a lot who don't. Asian and South Asian tends to take it much harder than Caucasians.
Then in old age and about to kick the bucket, I see some with regret NOT having kids. I also see some regret having kids who stop caring about them. The rest is indifferent or have kids that is taking care of them well. I see that as 33% split across these 3 groups.
There is a 33% chance you will NOT regret having kids for a single minute from the second you had them until you kick the bucket.
Again, regret doesn't mean they don't love their kids. Just given a do over, for anyone in their 60s and 70s, at least half probably won't have kids again.
Not scientific in any way, just observation from people I know ages from 80s down to 30s, from new parents to seasoned grand parents.
Just be thankful that we live in a time where social pressure of having kids are lessen and it's actually a respected choice either way.
Last edited by Xtrema on 03-21-2017 at 02:25 AM
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