Originally Posted by
shakalaka
We are definitely one and done. We always talked about that before having him, but him being the way he is it’s just made it a 100% thing. Even the wife doesn’t want another kid as she says she can’t risk that kid to be like this guy as she’s gonna check herself into a mental hospital. Lol.
All that being said, fuck getting snipped. I ain’t doing that. Fuckin talking about is giving me weird pain tinglies. lol
If you don’t get snipped, you place your trust wholly with your wife. If her mental health is affected, she could forget to take the pill or not want to be intimate in fear of a second one. This will be extremely hard on your situation.
Someone gave me this advice before my kids came years ago:
“If you and the wife are good, the kids are good”.
It took me months into our first born to understand what he meant. Then the second kid came. That quote still holds true - get your shit together with your partner. It will help the kids, too. It’s not the kid’s fault until they’re much older and not innocent.
"The most merciful thing in the world, I think, is the inability of the human mind to correlate all its contents... some day the piecing together of dissociated knowledge will open up such terrifying vistas of reality, and of our frightful position therein, that we shall either go mad from the revelation or flee from the light into the peace and safety of a new Dark Age."
-H.P. Lovecraft