Long distance relationships???

[TegLover]

So my GF is going to be moving away to B.C for a year to attend school, i'll spare the details, do you think a long distance relationship will work? We have a very healthy relationship going on right now. Something tells me that its not going to work.

[FlamingC19]

Ya man the only thing you can do is try it out!!! I go to school at UofL and have a g/f back in Calgary its hard at times but were making it work!!! Good luck bro

[ronaldo]

its a bitch.... good luck

[shakalaka]

It can work if both of yous want it to work. It all depends on how determined and honest you both are.

[dj_rice]

Shes gonna cheat on you like a mofo, stick to your gut, and cmon..a year without poon?How long can you last :rofl:

[~Leah~]

If you don't think it's gonna work, there's your answer.

I've been in many long distance relationships... Regina-Saskatoon, Regina-Camrose, Calgary-Camrose (same guy for those 3), Calgary-Edmonton, Regina-Calgary, Calgary-Red Deer..... see a trend? THEY DONT WORK. I was engaged to one of them. 4% of the time they will work, but the other 96% of the time no dice. It's just too hard, and I mean, it's BC man... most of the BC girls I know are easy and the BC guys I know are pretty damn hot. I'd have a wandering eye for sure but if you already have this feeling it's not gonna work, then fuck it. If you were meant to be together, get back together once she's back... if not, then you just weren't meant to be. Good luck with whatever decision!

[pinoyhero]

I'd say don't otrture yourself unless you're 100% that she's the one.

[CasperWho]

She will deffinitly cheat on you
And you prolly will too...
Even if you dont, she still will :devil:
Its written in the ethics of women, especially in the age of going away for school.

[shawtie]

Originally posted by TegLover
Something tells me that its not going to work.

Then it wont!!!

[h_s]

she will get horny and you will be nowhere around, it wont work, dump her so you leave with your self confidence at the least

[frostyda9]

I did it for a year. It sucks. Don't do it.

[mac_82]

Don't bother. :thumbsdow

[GQBalla]

i was suppose to move to hong kong for 6 months just for fun and travel a bit - but i decided not too because of the relationship that i am still in - long distance relationships are just to hard and

almost impossible.

just be friends

[GTS Jeff]

She is already partaking in a gangbang with 4 black guys...

[KLCC]

Originally posted by shakalaka
It can work if both of yous want it to work. It all depends on how determined and honest you both are.


:werd:

I been involved in a long distant relationship for over 9 years. If both of you want it to work, it WILL work. GL to ya.

[dj_rice]

Originally posted by GTS Jeff
She is already partaking in a gangbang with 4 black guys...


Shes gonna get RIPPPPPPPPPPED up...

[codo]

my buddy was away from his girlfriend for a year they are still together now they are a good couple but thats about the onlky 2 people i know that would even give it a try. For me id say not a chance.

[frostyda9]

Originally posted by KLCC



:werd:

I been involved in a long distant relationship for over 9 years. If both of you want it to work, it WILL work. GL to ya.

9 years? Holy fack....maybe you guys should think about...you know...making some sort of commitment and living closer together :rofl:

[88CRXGUY]

it could work, depending how strong the realtionship is, trust, commuication blah blah blah. You could always stay friends until she comes home, that might be a bit easier then trying the long distance. If your not 100 percent sure in your mind that your not able to do it, then don't same should go with her too. Everyone is saying yes and no, its what works for you. You could always try it out, and if it doesn't work then just be friends. There is always alteritives.

[rage2]

Mine ended in divorce.

[bspot]

Been there once, didn't work.

I will say though, I think it can. If its just 1 year, thats alright. Anything more and don't bother. Make sure there is a set return date too. No indefinite time periods.

She won't necessarily cheat. Mine didn't, she just turned into a bitch. :rofl:

It can work, its just rough. Get aquainted with west jet.

[Rockski]

its hard, but if you want it to work it can.

[Dren]

its all about trust....and just DO u trust everything she says to u ?

[msommers]

expect to have ridiculous phone bills

[KLCC]

Originally posted by msommers
expect to have ridiculous phone bills

I doubt it, if you use IP phone or any other web communication tools (i.e. MSN or skype) you should save quite a bit on phone bills

Yeah, 9 years is a long time, but hey I don't have to worry about that now, because my wife took my bachelor life away....
:cry:

[CalgaryB5]

It helps a bit if you ask her to put on the GPS and Poon~motion detector
:rofl:


If you two can keep it then great. No then you both should move on.

[Lilac Wine]

I was in a long distance relationship only for a few months and eventually moved to his town because it was just getting harder and harder to leave each time (and we saw eachother usually every couple weeks or so.)
But I think it could work. You know it's only for a year so there is a light at the end of the tunnel.

[abyss]

I suppose it depends on how far away she is. But I'm all for the "if you love something let it go..." if you're not engaged, and you're not married, I'd say take some time away from eachother. If it's meant to be, it will be. In the meantime, neither of you will be sacrificing anything, and you'll know that much more that this girl is the one for you if you get back together after the break.

[BerserkerCatSplat]

Originally posted by msommers
expect to have ridiculous porn bills

Fixed. ;)

[doanashk]

Nope doesn't work.... nope nope nope. Even if you are ridiculously in love it will not work. Go with her. Or tell her to stay if you really love her.

The emotional stress is NOT fun and eventually the calls will get fewer and further in between. Then you'll both have moved on without realizing it and look back and think hey, what the hell happened there?

[Speed_69]

i say fuck it, one of you (or both) are going to end up cheating. The phone bills are going to be extremely expensive and yea you'll both eventually talk to each other less and less. I couldn't even imagine how it would be like not to be able to see my gf for a month, let alone a year!

[ex1z7]

You guys are all fucking brutal. Imagine hearing the shit you guys are saying towards your own relationships? You'd be crushed..

I'm young still and have had 3 long distance relationships, 2 didn't work. I started dating a girl before I moved to Australia, and I moved back 6 months later after I finished school to be with her. We're still together, we'll celebrate our 1 year in 3 weeks time.. I know it isn't as much as many others here, we aren't engaged or anything of that sort, but we're still together and still in love - despite everything that's come between us (distance etc.).. It can work if you try.

You'll need to visit her, and she'll need to visit you - school breaks, long weekends, shit like that .. You'll need to try really, really hard, and she'll also need to try. It's not easy, I wont lie about that, it's killer sometimes - but terribly worth it others.

Give it a shot. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work, but at least you know you tried. Who knows, she may be the "one".

[abyss]

I think there are definately people who can make it work, however the original poster doesn't seem to have a very optimistic outlook. I was making an assumption based on the very little info in his post by saying it probably won't work. Some people just arent willing to put the effort in.

However in my case, if I really wanted to be with the guy there wouldn't ever be a long distance relationship, I'd go anywhere for Minh, even before we were married.

[heavyD]

Originally posted by ex1z7
You guys are all fucking brutal. Imagine hearing the shit you guys are saying towards your own relationships? You'd be crushed..

Give it a shot. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work, but at least you know you tried. Who knows, she may be the "one".

You are soooo wrong. If she is moving away it's over. You will be better off having an amicable split now (because if she is the 'one' you will get back together later) with no hard feelings as if you stay together it will still end but most likely badly. The paranoia when she doesn't answer phone at 1:00 a.m, the lies, the coverups and the inevitable "I was lonely" excuse for fucking half the town. The only question really is how long before she starts screwing other guys and that is usually directly proportional to how hot she is. There are excepions though but that would mean she's fat & ugly.

[snowboard]

Originally posted by heavyD


You are soooo wrong. If she is moving away it's over. You will be better off having an amicable split now (because if she is the 'one' you will get back together later) with no hard feelings as if you stay together it will still end but most likely badly. The paranoia when she doesn't answer phone at 1:00 a.m, the lies, the coverups and the inevitable "I was lonely" excuse for fucking half the town. The only question really is how long before she starts screwing other guys and that is usually directly proportional to how hot she is. There are excepions though but that would mean she's fat & ugly.

bitter? but true.
fuck that shit, if my girlfreind said she was moving away id say alright were done. not because i dont love her, or trust her, but because that shit would be too stressful.

[heavyD]

Originally posted by snowboard
bitter?

Not me but I have buddies that got totally fucked over. I once had a buddy call me up:

Him: "Hey man I heard slut was out partying with some of you guys last night. Did she make it home?"
Me: "Yeah I think she caught a cab with her slut friend. Me and Lester walked to his place & crashed."
Him: "Cool man. I think I'm just getting a bit paranoid."
Me: "Yeah"

True story & truth be told. We did go to my buddies house. I fucked the slut friend while my buddy fucked the slut girlfriend. Pretty messy situation but what can you do? I didn't do anything wrong and if the girlfriend is going to fuck around with another friend I have to pin the whole blame on her for putting us in the whole shitty situation.

I got other stories from guys that came to SAIT and left their wives at home out of town and other shit. Bottom line is that the majority of long distance relationships just don't work. Breaking it off right away and suffering for a few weeks then going on with your life is better than suffering out months of a long & drawn out breakup.

[kaput]

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[frostyda9]

Originally posted by heavyD

the inevitable "I was lonely" excuse for fucking half the town

Primarily used in conjunction with: "I was drunk"

Seriously, does any guy ever hear that phrase and say...ah yeah, well I guess you were kind of drunk, so I can see where you're coming from...? Yet girls have used it since the beginning of time and probably always will :nut:

[Steve-O 00]

you guys are halerious................... but really the long distance relationship only ends bad

[codo]

Originally posted by snowboard


bitter? but true.
fuck that shit, if my girlfreind said she was moving away id say alright were done. not because i dont love her, or trust her, but because that shit would be too stressful.

ill give you 5 dollars if you say it to your girlfriend, be like 'just so you know if you go anywhere for more than a month Im fucking dumping you.' DOOO IT!!

[Unknown303]

I was nine hours away from my girlfriend for a little under a year and it worked out fine. we live together now. But i think the poll will be the final deciding factor in this one.

[Lo)2enz0]

I have been in a long distance relationship for almost a year now. its not that bad, you just talk on the phone alot. just make sure you go and see her once a month.

[fendercontender]

depends if ur just dating or this is long term and in "love" and will turn to life commitment. im in calgary and completely in love with my girlfriend in abbotsford. im about %85 certain we will be married someday, so i dont mind the wait. but if its just dating, that wont work

[snowboard]

Originally posted by codo


ill give you 5 dollars if you say it to your girlfriend, be like 'just so you know if you go anywhere for more than a month Im fucking dumping you.' DOOO IT!!

im pretty sure ive already said that too her. im not gunna beat around the bush, and she knows that haha. i also told her if she doesnt get in drivers ED by the end of the month im dumping her haha :rolleyes:

[ianmcc]

My G/F went away for the summer to Expo 86 in Vancover in 86. Stayed with her father (divorced) while there. Slut f*cked the porter on the train ride home. My advice: go with her or lose her forever.

[rockym20]

I think a lot of it depends upon where you are at in your lives. If you have seriously talked about getting married, then it can possibly work. After all, not all women are sluts (otherwise everyone would be getting laid a lot more than they are now). As some of the other people said, it will be a lot of work and there will be some crappy times when you really miss each other. However, if neither of you are really interested in settling down right now and you are just dating, then I can virtually guarantee you it won't work.

[inthesky]

I'd say it could/should work if you and your gf are capable enough. worked fine for me, actually made our relationship stronger since we appreciated each other more after being apart.

[Police]

no its not going to work out

[MrPid]

First response is to trust your gut...

Sounds like you're both young but I could be wrong - how old are you and how old is GF?

If young then I side with the lonely and drunk vote for the excuse to give more rides than Greyhound theory...

How about the compromise position of "taking a break" from each other? That has lots of advantages...

[hussein]

I would prefer not to call it cheating because you are doing it for her so that you can stay together with her in a "long distance relationship." ;)

But yea its tough, and sometimes if you or her are busy with school or whatever and don't talk for a few days, and then don't talk again for another few days, you may not feel the same unless you talk to her alot (for many hours), especially if you meet other women local to you which you find an interest in.