Need Advice: to buy flowers or not?

[2.2vtec]

If someone is dating a girl for about 6 months and recently finds out that her sisters father in law just passed away should the guy send flowers to her sisters house. He has met the sister and have talked on the phone.

[hash]

maybe if it has both your names on it.

[Godfuader]

Originally posted by hash
maybe if it has both your names on it.

exactly. Just put both names on it. Personally, I would not go solo. But then again, it is a funeral, and sending flowers will never be considered a negative.

[Pee_Sack]

find out what your girl friend is doing and chip in for that or send flowers with both your names on it. Regardless of what you do it will be appreciated.

[REFLUX]

Family members usually wouldn't buy flowers for each other during funerals (gf wouldn't get flowers for her sister) so if you're going to put both your names on it, be the one to pay for the flowers.

And the boyfriend should be the one to deliver them, not the gf/sister

[Schwa]

so it's his gf's sister's father in law. I would do nothing. You barely know the guy, and you've only been dating the chick 6 months. If she gets pissed at this then launch.

[pinoyhero]

gf's sisters father in law? doesn't that mean is also gf's father in law? regardless send them, dont be an idiot, its almost common sense

[Seanith]

Originally posted by pinoyhero
gf's sisters father in law? doesn't that mean is also gf's father in law? regardless send them, dont be an idiot, its almost common sense

no, its her sisters husbands dad, that doesn't make it her father in law as well. I'd probably do nothing as well. Thats too distant a connection, especially if the family isn't super fond of you yet.

[Si_FlyGuy]

I vote that you err on the safe side and fork out the $40 for a bouquet so that they don't think that you're a douche.

[JordanAndrew]

^^^+1 for playing it safe.

[Impreza]

Play it safe. Nothing bad can come of it if you buy the flowers, but if you do, then you may risk coming off as a douche.

[LuxCars]

buy flowers for sure, your GF will think better of you, youll make a better impression on the family and that will deffinately benefit you if marriage is in question.

[01RedDX]

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[Schwa]

Dude its 6 months. Marriage in the question?? Honestly, do nothing or you're just setting yourself to be walked on if you part with your money that easy.

[Si_FlyGuy]

Originally posted by Schwa
Dude its 6 months. Marriage in the question?? Honestly, do nothing or you're just setting yourself to be walked on if you part with your money that easy.

Someone died. I wouldn't call that easy.

[Schwa]

To each their own I guess. I feel that the degree of separation is too far for me to care, and 6 months is too short to start caring.

[JordanLotoski]

to me its extended family...looks like your ass kissing at that point!

[Mixalot27]

Are you trying to have sex with the sister? If not I wouldn't be sending her flowers. WTF do ppl need with a houseful of flowers anyway? How do they feel in a week when the flowers die? I will never understand this.

In my family when someone dies, you bring the relatives food. Maybe a nice lasagne or cassorolle. Thinking behind it being that they will be busy over the next few days/weeks making the arrangements and settling things. This way they don't have to worry about cooking meals too.