is "sexting" cheating?

[lookin4civic]

My brother and his wife are going through problems right now where she got him sexting with another chick. Now he never even met this chick nor had any means to. My opinion is that because he never physically touched her so -while it is still not right- he never cheated.what do you guys think?

[GQBalla]

wtf is sexting?

[JfuckinC]

Pretty sleazy/immature if you ask me lol

[Barking_Spidre]

Originally posted by GQBalla
wtf is sexting?

Sex texting.

Dunno, how would he feel if his wife was doing it? Personally, I don't see it as cheating, but kind of sleazy to do it.

[Kardon]

Yeah its a bit of a dick move when you have a wife.

[lookin4civic]

i am not saying what he was doing was right but i dont think its cheating

[GQBalla]

he has the intention of cheating.

where did he get this girls number anyways?

its probably a guy

[Rat Fink]

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[codo]

First off that just doesn't sound like fun. It sounds really difficult. Real sex sounds better.

I'd dump my girlfriend if I caught her doing that, because if she is willing to have phone sex, then she's probably willing to cheat on me.

[7thgenvic]

Good question!!!! If my girl was texting another dude dirty fucking messages I would be pretty ticked off. That is a trust issue in itself, but I think he should be honest and confess the extent of the messages. It's just letting one thing slip to another.

[Q-TIP]

It's cheating, plain and simple. It is a lame version of phone sex.

Personally, if you are contacting another human being directly be it text, phone or online chat for the sole purpose of getting your rocks off with someone other than your significant other you are cheating. I am in a healthy relationship and the idea of texting someone else for sexual gratification feels wrong. If you are in a mutually exclusive relationship then you shouldn't feel the urge to have someone else tell you how to pleasure yourself any more than having them pleasure you directly.

Porn is iffy, I look at porn on occasion but seeing another woman naked is different than having her describe herself to you and having you describe yourself to her. It is the COMMUNICATION for satisfaction that is cheating, not the net result of it.


But that is just my opinion. Some people think it's healthy to share partners entirely....:dunno:

[hampstor]

It does not matter what you/I/anyone/your friend thinks about it. If she thinks it's cheating, then she will react like it's cheating. You will not be able to convince her otherwise.

When it comes to his wife, this is one of those cases where it's a difference of degree, not of kind.

[SI_futbol]

Originally posted by 7thgenvic
Good question!!!! If my girl was texting another dude dirty fucking messages I would be pretty ticked off. That is a trust issue in itself, but I think he should be honest and confess the extent of the messages. It's just letting one thing slip to another.

9.5 billion % agree

[03ozwhip]

i punch my wife in the fucking vag if she did that to me and i dont even hit girls. to me thats a gateway to cheating. if shes saying it, shes thinking of doing it. i say your bro gets what he deserves, whatever his wife thinks that is, whether it be divorce or just a punch in the vag. he deserves it.

[adidas]

give me your brothers fiances number and we will see how your bro feels about it!

[ekguy]

I'd freak out if my gf did something like that. So I wouldn't do it either. It's cheating.

[LongCity]

Emotional cheating?

[TomcoPDR]

If I was married, the rule I would use is "will this get the other chick pregnant?"

But I mean don't put too much weigh on my advice as my relationships aren't known to be super peachy perfect.

[sk65guy]

and.....BEATS!!! is what your brother gets for jerking off every night to some girl who's talking about sucking him off.

PICS OF SAID WIFE OR ITS FAKE !!!

[Kloubek]

The intentions of something like this varies. I would say more often than not it is a precursor to cheating. If two people are engaged in something like this, then they are building sexual tension. (Don't really get the whole concept, myself...) That tension will eventually grow until they are compelled to meet and do the nasty.

Is it cheating? Well, I can think of more than one woman who thinks so. Guys will generally be pissed, and might dump a girl due to the lack of respect she demonstrated, but will often not consider it cheating.

At the end of the day, this is what *I* define as cheating:
If you feel guilty about what you are doing with another woman, and the effect it may have on your girlfriend/wife if she found out, then chances are you are either walking the line of cheating, or outright screwing another chick.

The actual TERM "cheating" is irrelevant. He did something that pissed her off greatly (can't blame her), and now he is in the doghouse. And he should be... if she has any self-respect.

For the record, if I caught my girlfriend doing that, she'd be on her ass, out the door.



Originally posted by TomcoPDR
If I was married, the rule I would use is "will this get the other chick pregnant?"

Are you serious? So... you can have twenty girls swallowing your jizz, and spunking in 11 assholes, and you would still not consider it cheating? Either your woman is really open to stuff, or you have a very peculiar definition of cheating....

[Weapon_R]

Originally posted by ekguy
I'd freak out if my gf did something like that. So I wouldn't do it either. It's cheating.

I coulda sworn that it happened to you...and you didn't care :D

[JfuckinC]

Originally posted by Weapon_R


I coulda sworn that it happened to you...and you didn't care :D


:rofl:
for sure

[Splooge]

it's pre-meditated cheating...

[Manhattan]

How and why did your bro start texting some random chick he's never met and supposedly can't meet in the first place???

There's different degrees of cheating. Some chicks consider flirting to be a form of cheating. Nothing in a relationship is ever black and white. But I'd definitely consider texting dirty messages to another chick to be pretty high on that scale when you have a wife.

[TKRIS]

IMO, cheating is less about what physical parts of you/her touch what, and more about deceit, disrespect, and a violation of trust. And this certainly encompasses all the above.

Also, sexting? Fucking really? That's the lamest, saddest, most pathetic, sackless thing I think I've ever heard.
Grow the fuck up.

[snoop101]

If you cant do it with your wife then its cheating. So another words you can goto the strip joint and watch porn with your wife and thats fine. If you went alone it would still be fine. Now for this I can see your wife/fiance/gf sitting down and texting dirty things to another woman. If she is into that then its a whole new ball game.

[dandia89]

if you do shit that you wouldn't want your wife to see, then it definitely isn't something you should do

[speeed]

Originally posted by Manhattan
How and why did your bro start texting some random chick he's never met and supposedly can't meet in the first place???

This. How did he start texting dirty with a random in the first place?

So much for him showing his commitment towards her especially since they're married. He deserves whatever she plans to do with him imo.

[beyond_ban]

Before i do something with possible consequences i always analyze the risk vs. reward. In this case, i have no idea what the fuck he is thinking. Why would you risk your relationship with your fucking WIFE, just so you can have written sex with someone? Not only does it sound terrible boring, but it also makes the guy sound like he's a grade 8 virgin. That has to be one of the most retarded things i have heard of in a while, other then 89coupe's poker skills.

[CMW403]

Originally posted by speeed

This. How did he start texting dirty with a random in the first place?

So much for him showing his commitment towards her especially since they're married. He deserves whatever she plans to do with him imo.

yeah, i agree. what a retarded way to ruin a relationship. his girlfriend probably started laughing before she was mad. thats fucking sad

[ringer]

Cheating for sure.

How isn't that cheating, you're building a sexual relationship with some other broad?
You're telling her things you want to do with her sexually and she is doing the same, you are imagining and wanting to have sexual feelings with someone other than your wife.
People like that shouldn't get married they don't understand the commitment.

Grow up and be a man.

[Masked Bandit]

It's cheating. No further explanantion needed.

[darkkent]

if you can't do it with your spouse sitting right beside you, you shouldn't be doing it

happy wife = happy life

[G]

Originally posted by darkkent
if you can't do it with your spouse sitting right beside you, you shouldn't be doing it

happy wife = happy life

holy shit :whipped:

[beyond_ban]

Originally posted by darkkent
if you can't do it with your spouse sitting right beside you, you shouldn't be doing it

happy wife = happy life

I bet your back is pretty striped up from all those lashes of your wifeys whip. Sure i dont believe in being a cheating bastard, BUT here are some things the wife doesn't need to know about based on the fact that she would blow it WAY out of proportion.

(purely based on ex-girlfriends, as i sure as hell am not getting married till I'm 40)

[Seanith]

Originally posted by darkkent
if you can't do it with your spouse sitting right beside you, you shouldn't be doing it

happy wife = happy life

Best toss Modern Warfare 2 out the window!

OP, I'd definitely consider it something you wouldn't to do. It's definitely betraying the wife's trust, even though its not "cheating" in a traditional sense. Hardly seems like its worth it :dunno:

[ekguy]

Originally posted by Weapon_R


I coulda sworn that it happened to you...and you didn't care :D

that was just some dumb bitch I was fucking for a year. Thought it was more at some point but realized there isn't really much future with a 35 year old psycho bitch haha. She saw me the other day with my new gf which is much and I mean MUCH younger and definitely a hell of a lot cuter. It was a moment I will remember forever haha. The look on her face was pure hatred for me and Laura hahaha.

edited to add I also did alot of shit behind her back. Never cheated...Well unless partying for 3 days with some chick I bartended with constitutes cheating hehe.

I'm definitely a different person with my gf now than how I was with my ex'es. Guess that happens when you find someone you'd like to settle down with.

Also any sexting, dirty texting or whatever is cheating.

[Masked Bandit]

Originally posted by darkkent
if you can't do it with your spouse sitting right beside you, you shouldn't be doing it

happy wife = happy life


All these guys beakin' off about being whipped.....no way. Talk to anyone who's been married for more than 10 minutes (especially when you throw kids in there) and you'll see that this man speaks the truth.

[G]

Originally posted by Masked Bandit



All these guys beakin' off about being whipped.....no way. Talk to anyone who's been married for more than 10 minutes (especially when you throw kids in there) and you'll see that this man speaks the truth.

I'm married for 6+ years with one child. I don't have to put my wife on a pedestal and worship the ground she walks on. I'm do not fear her nor she does me. It is all about mutual respect.

[nj2Type-S]

"sexting" lol. wtf? you may as well call a phone sex line! it'd probably be a lot more entertaining than "sexting".

[dr_jared88]

Originally posted by G


I'm married for 6+ years with one child. I don't have to put my wife on a pedestal and worship the ground she walks on. I'm do not fear her nor she does me. It is all about mutual respect.

I don't think that is what he is saying at all. You are blowing this way out of proportion. I think what he's saying is if you can't share what you're doing, it's probably not something you should be doing. You might do thinks that she'd rather you be doing something else, but it is things she is able to be aware of without hiding it. Hiding is never healthy.

[Masked Bandit]

Originally posted by G


I'm married for 6+ years with one child. I don't have to put my wife on a pedestal and worship the ground she walks on. I'm do not fear her nor she does me. It is all about mutual respect.


I never said anything about putting anyone up on a pedestal. The phrase is "happy wife, happy life". What makes any given wife happy is different.

[Myrrinda]

I thought only high school kids did sexting...like on 90210 when Naomi sent a sext of Annie to the whole school, and now they're not friends anymore cause Naomi's, like, totally a bitch, and Annie's, like, OMG, a total slut.

haha, but seriously, sexting is totally cheating. I could never trust a guy that does shit like that behind my back. How am I supposed to believe that he hasn't slept with someone else? And I don't care that it's not physical, it's disrespectful and completely upsetting to think that someone you love has those kinds of conversations with some random person that isn't you. If I found out my husband was doing that, I'd go after him with a 3 iron...

[TomcoPDR]

Originally posted by Myrrinda
I thought only high school kids did sexting...like on 90210 when Naomi sent a sext of Annie to the whole school, and now they're not friends anymore cause Naomi's, like, totally a bitch, and Annie's, like, OMG, a total slut.

haha, but seriously, sexting is totally cheating. I could never trust a guy that does shit like that behind my back. How am I supposed to believe that he hasn't slept with someone else? And I don't care that it's not physical, it's disrespectful and completely upsetting to think that someone you love has those kinds of conversations with some random person that isn't you. If I found out my husband was doing that, I'd go after him with a 3 iron...

How do you check if your bf doesn't already do that now?

[CUG]

This is so pathetic. What a pathetic question, what a pathetic fucking activity.

If you want to be a fucking clown who acts like an invalid with a partner, tell them, because that's what you are.

Sexting? Fucking really. You pathetic dickless clowns. I screw the hell out of my chick, because I'm a man with a penis. Her raw real life vagina is much more entertaining than a blackberry screen shot of some little tramps pooter.

Wow, not only are boys not becoming men, they're taking pictures of the fucking privates and sending them to each other mom, it's the safest sex around.

[BrknFngrs]

Originally posted by Myrrinda
If I found out my husband was doing that, I'd go after him with a 3 iron...

Mrs. Woods?

[Myrrinda]

Originally posted by TomcoPDR


How do you check if your bf doesn't already do that now?

By staying single



Originally posted by BrknFngrs


Mrs. Woods?

haha, yeah, that's kinda where I was going with that. Apparently he partakes in this sexting trend as well. Cause he's cool like that.

[The_Rural_Juror]

^ Please let this be Miranda Kerr.:love:

[darkkent]

Originally posted by G


I'm married for 6+ years with one child. I don't have to put my wife on a pedestal and worship the ground she walks on. I'm do not fear her nor she does me. It is all about mutual respect.

happy wife = happy life

doesnt mean I have my wife on a pedestal

it means I give her the respect and love she deserves and as a result she gives it back to me

treat a woman right , which includes not " sexting " with anyone else but your wife, and she will gladly give you time to play video games

[Myrrinda]

Originally posted by The_Rural_Juror
^ Please let this be Miranda Kerr.:love:

After checking Google to find out who Miranda Kerr is, yes, I've decided that I am her. Turns out I'm not single. Apparently I'm dating Orlando Bloom. I checked his phone and I'm happy to report he had no sexts from strange women. There were some topless photos of Zac Efron on there though...is that cheating?

[InLoveWitRSX]

Its not cheating but its a matter of respect.. If he respected her he wouldn't be "sexting" other girls.

[msommers]

Anyway you spin it, it's basically cheating

[2EFNFAST]

I don't think it's cheating per-say, but it is disrespectful and if I found out she did that I'd chop off her vagina with a rusty butter knife :whipped:

[cycosis]

Its a kick in the vag to the wife because he obviously isn't satisfied sexually with her which probably means he isn't satisfied with her in other situations as well. She should leave him and his pathetic ass. Christ you wanna go get off thinking about another girl, theres always porn?