Coffee or Drinks for a first date?

[Kobe]

So we had no idea this simple question would explode so hard and have so many opinions and I'm deciding to ask beyond which they would prefer.


What is better for interaction on a first date?

You could of met tinder, bar, library, school..etc etc I realize this might make a difference but in general.


I realize there is many other places to go on a first date but let's just ask if coffee or drinks are better..

[Mitsu3000gt]

Makes absolutely no difference if you go for a beer or a glass of wine or a coffee - nobody is going to get drunk on a first date (well, there's probably the odd story out there haha), so the drink could be beer, coffee, water, etc. and it won't make a difference. I've been on a lot of first dates and almost all of them were coffee or a drink at a pub/lounge, but usually a drink. Some people need a drink to take the edge off of an uncomfortable situation, so you'll find that's a popular choice.

[JRSC00LUDE]

Drinks. So you can FHRITP.

[01RedDX]

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[Kobe]

Originally posted by Mitsu3000gt
Makes absolutely no difference if you go for a beer or a glass of wine or a coffee - nobody is going to get drunk on a first date (well, there's probably the odd story out there haha), so the drink could be beer, coffee, water, etc. and it won't make a difference. I've been on a lot of first dates and almost all of them were coffee or a drink at a pub/lounge, but usually a drink. Some people need a drink to take the edge off of an uncomfortable situation, so you'll find that's a popular choice.

There is def a difference between going for coffee or a drink on a first date IMO..

[EK 2.0]

I vote drinks...

BUT...I say that as I am turning into an alcoholic and drinking most every night now hahahaha....

[know1edge]

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[Mitsu3000gt]

Originally posted by Kobe


There is def a difference between going for coffee or a drink on a first date IMO..

Not in my experience. I've been on dozens of first dates on and off over about 7 years. Zero difference in my personal opinion, YMMV. Never ran into a single girl who cared either.

If you're after girls looking for one night stands, then things might be different and drinks would be the obvious choice. Most of my first dates have been just getting to know each other, so where you are and what you're casually drinking doesn't matter, since you aren't going to drink enough to have it matter what you're drinking. Everyone's different I guess but that's been my experience.

[D'z Nutz]

Depends. Are you picking her up in a Vette?

Cause then you might end up drinking alone haha

[jabjab]

I'd vote for coffee if you actually intended on dating her and not just having a one night stand. If you like each other sober then there is a good chance you'll like each other after a few drinks.

[killramos]

Coffee feels very innocent and friendzoney.

if she isn't comfortable having a drink with you, it isn't going anywhere.

Just make sure its a nice place.

[J.M.]

The Vette better be FULLY LOADED if you want to even get the chance to FHRITP.

[speedog]

Originally posted by D'z Nutz
Depends. Are you picking her up in a Vette?

Cause then you might end up drinking alone haha
Chevette or Corvette?

[wintonyk]

Originally posted by killramos
Coffee feels very innocent and friendzoney.

if she isn't comfortable having a drink with you, it isn't going anywhere.

Just make sure its a nice place.

number 1 way to avoid the friendzone. show intent.

drinks at a dive can show your adventurous side.

Personally I prefer coffee because you don't have a server pestering you. Since coffee is typically earlier, you can pull to another venue and continue the date if its going well. At a bar, there is generally only one venue you can pull to after that (which comes down to as others said whats the purpose of the date).

[revelations]

From my experience, the ATMOSPHERE of the location makes a far bigger impact on the first date than simply what liquid youre having.

For eg. if shes a coffee lover, then a specific place (like the Purple Perk) would be high on my list. If shes OK with drinks on a first date then a nice QUIET place would be better than some random pub full of people.

[xnvy]

Originally posted by speedog

Chevette or Corvette? Thank you for quoting that post or I would have missed the punchline :rofl:

[max_boost]

Don't think it matters?

A few years ago I'd opt for drinks but today I'd go for coffee haha

[A790]

Hit up Javino in Discovery Ridge and have both?

[btimbit]

Going for coffee is something you do with friends. Go for Drinks.

Don't get hammered, but a few drinks to both open up a bit is a great way to get to know each other

[Jlude]

Originally posted by JRSC00LUDE
Drinks. So you can FHRITP.

This. Unless you are looking for something serious. Not that it's impossible, but it's an investment in your future, and I don't get drunk when I invest in my future. With that being said... I revert back to what the good JRSC00LUDE said above, FHRITP. Treat them mean, keep them keen, rinse and repeat :rofl: :rofl:

[msommers]

Depends on the girl but generally drinks first.

[Sugarphreak]

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[rage2]

Originally posted by A790
Hit up Javino in Discovery Ridge and have both?
Crush puss bro.

[A790]

Originally posted by rage2

Crush puss bro.
THAT'S NOT WHAT IT'S ABOUT.

[gwill]

what a bunch of old losers picking coffee for a date.... im glad to say i've never been that boring that a coffee date was ever a choice.

[Redlyne_mr2]

Take her skiing

[vengie]

Do something active, go hiking, go rock climbing, shooting range etc...

Raising the adrenaline level through something active is most likely to lead to an increased attraction.

[stillworking]

Next

[MalibuStacy]

Just saying, I took my girlfriend to Lloyds for our first "date" and we have been together now for almost two years strong now, she actually said she liked the funny uniqueness of that idea

[cosmok]

Drinks on a Friday or Saturday so it i easy to escalate, coffee if you met at the bar and you don't remember what she looks like.

[killramos]

Originally posted by Sugarphreak
Coffee:

In a study by University of Queensland, they found that people guzzling caffeine are 35% more likely to be persuaded to agree with one of the positions presented than those who were not.

Mother Fucking Peer Reviewed... or something like that anyway:
http://onlinelibrary.wiley.com/doi/10.1111/j.1559-1816.2005.tb02098.x/abstract

And how does that compare to convincing drunk people to do something they don't want to do.

I know that damn near everything i regret doing in my life. Was drunk. :rofl:

Honestly though coffee is something i do with a coworker or something, i guess i just see it as 100% innocent.

Does this mean the Coffee i had with ExtraSlow a couple months ago was a date? :love: :love: :love:

[Twin_Cam_Turbo]

Originally posted by Redlyne_mr2
Take her skiing

This. And if she doesn't know how you can hold her under her arms and teach her to ski while getting close hahahaha.

[blitz]

If you're a good conversationalist, go for coffee.
If you're an ok conversationalist, go for drinks
If you're neither, do something that involves an activity.

[Dave P]

Take her for drinks, give her a coffee in the morning. FHRITP

[Kobe]

I like this, it seems everyone is one sided to either coffee or drinks usually.

I wasn't expecting it to be close.

I mentioned in the 1st post I know there is many other things to do on a first day but those were the only 2 options for this poll..

[sputnik]

Drinks.

However the only reason I think it is the better option is because there are few coffee shops that I would want to spend more than 20 minutes in before getting annoyed with the noise or people around me on their phones/devices. Lounges (especially those in nicer restaurants) have much better atmosphere for hanging out in.

Going for drinks you can meet after work, have a drink and then there is no pressure if someone "needs to go home" if it just isn't working out, but if things are going well you can move over to the restaurant for dinner and then whatever after...

Coffee just seems to casual and not something I would want to do in the evening.

[A790]

My (now) wife and I don't really drink, so for our first date we smoked a bowl and went for a walk along Discovery Ridge. Recommended.

[Kobe]

I feel since this question was asked more towards americans and a couple english guys. so i feel that the location that you grew up in will have an effect on how you answer as well.


Also questioned a few females and they all said "drinks" for a first day.

[Swank]

Back when I was dating I always took them for drinks and a few remarked that they were tired of all the pussies just wanting to go for coffee. Usually the coffee girls had a no trespassing sign between their legs anyhow. Any nice lounge for drinks will have coffee too if she likes, then you recommend baileys in it which should at least get you a blowie.

[msommers]

Everyone's situation is different. It was obvious from the beginning that my (now) gf and I are both foodies and i decided to go out for brunch for our first date.

In hindsight it seems like a backwards way of doing things lol. Second date was dinner and...

[Kloubek]

When I was dating, I did coffee. Just because it's so unassuming and non-threatening.

[Feruk]

Originally posted by btimbit
Going for coffee is something you do with friends. Go for Drinks.
I go for drinks with friends too....

But I agree, definitely drinks.

[Sasuke_Kensai]

Always did coffee, drinks never really occurred to me. Wasn't overly successful, around 33% but I think that came down more to me not being the best at the whole dating game or just no chemistry. Worked for my wife though.

If I'm ever out with friends or acquaintances, it's usually drinks/food, not coffee. Coffee in my mind has always been more of a dating thing (not looking for one-night stands mind you). If a friend ever wants coffee, we just pick it up and go.

I picked coffee, but I'd agree with the current poll results that drinks would be the better choice for most people, or if you wanted the highest success rates without any further information.

[EK 2.0]

Originally posted by Kloubek

When I was dating, I did coffee. Just because it's so unassuming and non-threatening.

Ohhh and then you FHRITP....smart play...

[Skyline_Addict]

Originally posted by J.M.
The Vette better be FULLY LOADED.....

Minus sunroof, AC and a transmission.

[CompletelyNumb]

Both options are so exhausted that I'm surprised they even apply these days.

But drinks.

[tirebob]

I would prefer coffee, but when setting it up, I would ask the chick if she would like to "meet for a coffee maybe a drink" and follow her lead...

[ArjayAquino]

why not...
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Jokes aside, I'm back on the dating scene after 7 years :nut: so it's interesting to see these responses.

[birdman86]

Drinks, people don't usually order more than one round of coffee so that can cut a date short once you're both finished up. Booze is good til 2am if you play your cards right.

[phreezee]

Bubble tea... 100% succes rate of balls in her mouth.

[max_boost]

You guys are such :bigpimp: to close right away.

[Sentry]

Invite to coffee a little later in the evening and - oh! The coffee shop is closed! Hmm, maybe we could grab a drink somewhere? :D

[ExtraSlow]

I am not currently in the dating pool, and I am probably old-fashioned, but I don't think I would be interested in closing the deal on the first date. Build up some rapport and hopefully some anticipation.

That's assuming I am looking for a relationship. Otherwise, just troll tinder for girls who will trade drinks for sex, which probably is about the same cost as an escort.

[birdman86]

Originally posted by ExtraSlow
I am not currently in the dating pool, and I am probably old-fashioned, but I don't think I would be interested in closing the deal on the first date. Build up some rapport and hopefully some anticipation.

I'm the same way, but drinks are still a social lubricant that can make for a more enjoyable date even without it ending up in sex

[ExtraSlow]

Maybe it's because I can totally picture meeting people for work, and it turning into dating. Coffee meetings are pretty normal for me.

[killramos]

Originally posted by ExtraSlow
Maybe it's because I can totally picture meeting people for work, and it turning into dating. Coffee meetings are pretty normal for me.
Originally posted by killramos
Honestly though coffee is something i do with a coworker or something, i guess i just see it as 100% innocent.

Does this mean the Coffee i had with ExtraSlow a couple months ago was a date? :love: :love: :love:
:eek:

[JRSC00LUDE]

Originally posted by killramos

:eek:

Relax, I picture him as being quite gentle.....

[ExtraSlow]

I've been coffee-dating quite a few beyonders. :bigpimp:

[max_boost]

What about bubble tea? That's a solid option yea?

[killramos]

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[sumguy777]

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