conversation...

[codo]

anyone else find it a pain in the ass to find conversations that interest both the girl and the guy on a date or whenever. I always find this to be a pain cause wtf do i want to talk to a girl about sober, here would be about the in depth conversation i could have sober with a girl:

me:so....
her:im a bimbo all i like is hair and makeup
me:you have nice tits.....but it would look better with your shirt off
her:.................................................

not like ive said this to a girl but i mean honestly conversation with a girl is really difficult she likes makeup and stuff whilst i like mountain biking, fishing, hockey, whatever if a girl liked one of those things then we'd have something to talk about.

Besides theres only really one reason why i 'try' to make conversation with girls anyways.

[izzoblitzo]

how long have you known this person?

well.. conversations isnt about what you see on the outside.. get to know the person.. and go from there. Initiate the conversation.. talk about stupid people you've bumped into today.. silly experiences.. Im sure you'll find something you have in common.

[BlkMaxima]

LOL:rofl: :rofl:

Sucks to be you then!!!

[dooman24]

hehehhehe
try to be gay or something.. you might have a better chance..

[codo]

Originally posted by dooman24
hehehhehe
try to be gay or something.. you might have a better chance..

funny guy

[SiG Baby]

Originally posted by codo
me:so....
her:im a bimbo all i like is hair and makeup
me:you have nice tits.....but it would look better with your shirt off
her:.................................................



Thats a little rude don't you think. I don't talk abpout make-up with anyone...except the chick selling it to me, and I don't have any girlfriends that do either. IMO, if you meet someone and you click there is always something to talk about, and when theres not thats fine to... If this isn't the case your probably never gonna find much to tak about with that person.

[codo]

Originally posted by SiG Baby


Thats a little rude don't you think. I don't talk abpout make-up with anyone...except the chick selling it to me, and I don't have any girlfriends that do either. IMO, if you meet someone and you click there is always something to talk about, and when theres not thats fine to... If this isn't the case your probably never gonna find much to tak about with that person.

didnt mean to be offensive in that way i was just meaning most of the girls ive known are bimbos maybe i just gotta go for different girls.

[nhlfan]

talk about something that may not be a hobby of yours. talk about funny things that have happened to you, current events, compliment her, or just listen.

[finboy]

find common ground, it isn't that hard...
music, movies, tv show's, etc. use that to break the ice then go from there, ask questions about her and ACT INTERESTED no matter how stupid she sounds. :thumbsup:

[BigDannyCool]

you're trying to strike up a conversation with a bimbo? that's your problem right there.

[Team_Mclaren]

Originally posted by finboy
find common ground, it isn't that hard...
music, movies, tv show's, etc. use that to break the ice then go from there, ask questions about her and ACT INTERESTED no matter how stupid she sounds. :thumbsup:

:werd: talk about school, work, sports (some chicks are into that), other people:D etc... it really isnt that hard

[AsianCaucasian]

Originally posted by Team_Mclaren


:werd: talk about school, work, sports (some chicks are into that), other people:D etc... it really isnt that hard

vince is uber mack daddy:D

[Melinda]

Originally posted by SiG Baby


Thats a little rude don't you think. I don't talk abpout make-up with anyone...except the chick selling it to me, and I don't have any girlfriends that do either. IMO, if you meet someone and you click there is always something to talk about, and when theres not thats fine to... If this isn't the case your probably never gonna find much to tak about with that person.
:werd: I hardly even wear makeup lol. I like cars and all that encompases them, sports, driving around aimlessly for hours on end and eating pretty much all the ice cream I can get.

I have a few friends on either end of the girl spectrum but even girls that appear to ONLY care about makeup actually have a TON more there, you just have to pull yourself out of your own head and try and get into theirs.

*gasp* Although if you did that, you might actually find out girls are good for more than just T&A...heaven forbid! :eek:

[rmk]

maybe this ladyfriend isn't your type? :dunno:

try making conversatin while doing an activity (ie; mini golf, walk, insert idea here ___) it will bring out the best in each of you. sitting face to face can sometimes be intimidating and bore you or her; which ruins the date.

or you could always just take a swish of your favourite sauce when shes not looking. that'll get you going.

food for thought.

[codo]

Originally posted by Melinda

:werd: I hardly even wear makeup lol. I like cars and all that encompases them, sports, driving around aimlessly for hours on end and eating pretty much all the ice cream I can get.

I have a few friends on either end of the girl spectrum but even girls that appear to ONLY care about makeup actually have a TON more there, you just have to pull yourself out of your own head and try and get into theirs.

*gasp* Although if you did that, you might actually find out girls are good for more than just T&A...heaven forbid! :eek:

hahahah sorry that has to be the funniest thing ive heard all day right here:

you just have to pull yourself out of your own head and try and get into theirs.

*gasp* Although if you did that, you might actually find out girls are good for more than just T&A...heaven forbid!

but yeah anyway good point./

[VWbloke]

Learn some basic social skills?

[GTS Jeff]

Originally posted by codo
anyone else find it a pain in the ass to find conversations that interest both the girl and the guy on a date or whenever. I always find this to be a pain cause wtf do i want to talk to a girl about sober, here would be about the in depth conversation i could have sober with a girl:

me:so....
her:im a bimbo all i like is hair and makeup
me:you have nice tits.....but it would look better with your shirt off
her:.................................................

not like ive said this to a girl but i mean honestly conversation with a girl is really difficult she likes makeup and stuff whilst i like mountain biking, fishing, hockey, whatever if a girl liked one of those things then we'd have something to talk about.

Besides theres only really one reason why i 'try' to make conversation with girls anyways. Try having a few drinks first.

[codo]

^ showing up for a date drunk may not be such a good idea.....

[sputnik]

Ever consider dating someone with hobbies that are similar to yours? There must be girls that are into mountain biking or hobbies that you are into.

Trust me, if you date someone solely on looks and you hold a semi intelligent or stimulating conversation on the first date... let her go. It wont be worth the effort and money to keep her around. Find someone who enjoys your hobbies and your life will be MUCH happier in the long run. Do you really want to fight with your wife everytime you want to go out fishing or play a round of golf.

My financee enjoys playing poker and golfing. She is also a professional photographer and I have been a hobby photographer for a number of years. In fact the first conversation we had was about push processing film.

[bspot]

This is why I do NOT date girls who don't like hockey.

[FiveFreshFish]

Originally posted by codo
^ showing up for a date drunk may not be such a good idea.....

Get drunk during the date and make sure she gets drunk too.

[RickDaTuner]

all i got form this is... that you are shallow, are only with this girl to use her body, and are trying to find a way to make the relationship with her better, when in reality the both of you are a sad excuse for human beings...

Honestly is that all a girl is to you?:dunno:

[abyss]

^^ :clap: If you're shallow enough to look for a girl that only wants sex, chances are she'll have nothing meaningful to dicuss with you.

[b_t]

and this is why I only date the girl next door kind of girl.. but really, you shouldn't have to talk about anything. i usually will say maybe like maybe ten sentences but listen for a couple hours on a first date...

[rage2]

Originally posted by abyss
^^ :clap: If you're shallow enough to look for a girl that only wants sex, chances are she'll have nothing meaningful to dicuss with you.
Nothing wrong with that! Chick that wants sex and doesn't talk! :rofl:

[heavyD]

Originally posted by rage2

Nothing wrong with that! Chick that wants sex and doesn't talk! :rofl:

Other than some don't find it socially acceptable for guys to go out in public with their blow-up doll.:poosie:

[codo]

Originally posted by RickDaTuner
all i got form this is... that you are shallow, are only with this girl to use her body, and are trying to find a way to make the relationship with her better, when in reality the both of you are a sad excuse for human beings...

Honestly is that all a girl is to you?:dunno:

hahahahahahahahaaha that would be the first time ive EVAR been called shallow by a guy on the otherhand ive been called shallow on many occasions.

[Vdub_girl]

How do you know she only likes makeup and hair? Ask her what she likes doing on spare time, what her hobbies are. Most girls love it when you ask them questions, and maybe you'll find out you two may have something in common.

[Charon]

Originally posted by Vdub_girl
How do you know she only likes makeup and hair?

I knew a girl that was a stylist...... They talk about that even more then the regular girl. Talk about Michal Jackson trial... what ever is in the news. It might be fiction but they have to find something to get ratings

[codo]

i shoulda knowon all the girls on this forum would reply

[blinkme_210]

How did you and her even come about anyways? A mutual friend set you both up for a date?

How you meet a girl is very important in my books. If you were the one who initiated the initial conversation and are interested in the girl, interested not as in "I wanna bone her" interested, the conversation between the two is endless.

[codo]

Originally posted by blinkme_210
How did you and her even come about anyways? A mutual friend set you both up for a date?

How you meet a girl is very important in my books. If you were the one who initiated the initial conversation and are interested in the girl, interested not as in "I wanna bone her" interested, the conversation between the two is endless.

friends cousin he said she was great...

[SiG Baby]

Originally posted by codo
i shoulda knowon all the girls on this forum would reply

This is good...you seem like you need some insight into the femal mind :)

[Weapon_R]

Originally posted by rage2
Chick that wants sex and doesn't talk! :rofl:

If only there were more in this world like that...

[codo]

Originally posted by SiG Baby


This is good...you seem like you need some insight into the femal mind :)

haha probably ill admit

[Carfanman]

Ask her what shes interested in, and ask her questions about it.
Dont ask simple yes or no questions, or else the convo will seem dull, and so will you. Basically, this way you are guiding the convo, but she is doing the talking, saving you the trouble but still making you look confident or something good.
Listen alot, just let her talk, asking questions that have to do with something she just said.
And even if its not a hobby of yours, maybe you could learn something interesting.

Example convo:

You: So, what do you enjoy doing?
Her: Shopping
Y: Really? Where's your favorite place to go shopping?
H: The [whatever] mall.
Y: What do you like about it?
H: Well, I like that it's big, and they have a lot of interesting stores.
Y: Whats your favorite store?
H: I like [store] because they have alot of nice clothes.
ect... ect...

Ok, that sucked, I cant make up both sides of a convo well, but you get the idea, ask a starting question, and work off of her answers.

If you can't do this, then here is a good convo:

You: Your hot, lets fuk.
Her: So are you, OK.
[you both leave the resturaunt]

[sputnik]

Originally posted by Carfanman
You: Your hot, lets fuk.
Her: So are you, OK.
[you both leave the resturaunt]

Hard to believe that you are only 15.

:rolleyes:

[Carfanman]

I'm trying to figure out if thats a compliment or an insult.


BTW, I'm 14, not 15.

[Celica TVS3]

Haha,

You sound obnoxious i reccomend you ask her questions, let her talk, and keep your mouth shut.

woohoo - no longer a newbie

[codo]

carfanman im not taking advice like that sorry but if i have to talk to a girl about shopping then she isnt worth dating.

[codo]

Originally posted by Celica TVS3
Haha,

You sound obnoxious i reccomend you ask her questions, let her talk, and keep your mouth shut.

woohoo - no longer a newbie

questions about shopping?....

[Carfanman]

Thats your call, it was just an example. You should still ask her what she's interested in and ask questions based on her response. My example was just that, and example, she might say something totally different. For all you know shes into hang gliding, talk about that.

[Nufy]

Originally posted by rage2

Nothing wrong with that! Chick that wants sex and doesn't talk! :rofl:

And owns her own liquor store............:bigpimp:

[rage2]

I have a different strategy when it comes to women...

Be honest. If she talks about shopping, I'll tell her I hate shopping. If she talks about TV, I'll tell her all the shows I like (including porn haha). I'll go on and on about how I love doing track days, if she looks bored, I'll go on about how I love doing laps in the winter on GT4 lol. I'll also talk openly about sex, favorite positions, tongue tricks, skeeting on the face, etc.

Works well, unless you get some stuck up chick that doesn't like porn and video games. Then she's not worth dating anyways because either she'll be no fun in bed, or she's holding out for marriage. Chicks like honestly, they find it refreshing, and difference of opinion makes great conversation. And if it leads to anger? Hey, angry sex is the shit!

[codo]

Originally posted by rage2
I have a different strategy when it comes to women...

Be honest. If she talks about shopping, I'll tell her I hate shopping. If she talks about TV, I'll tell her all the shows I like (including porn haha). I'll go on and on about how I love doing track days, if she looks bored, I'll go on about how I love doing laps in the winter on GT4 lol. I'll also talk openly about sex, favorite positions, tongue tricks, skeeting on the face, etc.

Works well, unless you get some stuck up chick that doesn't like porn and video games. Then she's not worth dating anyways because either she'll be no fun in bed, or she's holding out for marriage. Chicks like honestly, they find it refreshing, and difference of opinion makes great conversation. And if it leads to anger? Hey, angry sex is the shit!

wow the most useful post in this entire thread sputniks post was helpful as well. THANKYOU

[abyss]

If any guy started talking to me about shopping I would automatically assume he's gay. As would most other women I'd think. I see a lot of women trying to set you up with their gay single friends in the future Carfanman......

Almost makes me want to see what an "ask Carfanman for love advice column" would contain......

[sputnik]

Originally posted by rage2
I have a different strategy when it comes to women...

Be honest. If she talks about shopping, I'll tell her I hate shopping. If she talks about TV, I'll tell her all the shows I like (including porn haha). I'll go on and on about how I love doing track days, if she looks bored, I'll go on about how I love doing laps in the winter on GT4 lol. I'll also talk openly about sex, favorite positions, tongue tricks, skeeting on the face, etc.

Works well, unless you get some stuck up chick that doesn't like porn and video games. Then she's not worth dating anyways because either she'll be no fun in bed, or she's holding out for marriage. Chicks like honestly, they find it refreshing, and difference of opinion makes great conversation. And if it leads to anger? Hey, angry sex is the shit!

:werd:

I wouldnt want her to ever think that I like the things that she likes. Because at the end of the day you will be required to do all of the things that she thinks you like to do. And then when you want to play a round of golf, play some xbox or piss a saturday away in front of the TV she sit and complain and make your life a living hell.

Instead, if she knows you like doing the things you do, she will find things to do on her own to keep herself busy and if she cant do that.... LEAVE! Nothing is worse than a girl with no hobbies. They end up turning into clingy needy leeches that whine whenever you are more than 30 ft away.

[Carfanman]

Ok, maybe that wasnt a great example, put like I said twice already, the point of the example wasn't that you should talk about shopping, the point was that what ever you talk about, dont play 20 questions, base your next question or response on what she said.

This is bad:

You: What do you do for a living?
Her: I'm a secretary
Y: Uh-huh, where do you live?
H: [to herself] WTF, I thought we were talking about my career. [out loud] umm, (wherever she lives)
Y: Do you like sports?
H: [to herself] what does that have to do with where I live? [out loud] yeah
Y: Whats your favorite TV show?
H: [to herself] am I on a date or being interrogated by a cop? [out loud] umm, I need to use the washroom. (goes to ladies room, climbs out window, falls into puddle, get angry, tells all her friends that you're a loser, you dont get any for the rest of your life, all because you kept jumping around.)

Ok, that was an exxageration, but you get what I'm trying to tell you. If you dont want to talk about shopping, dont, I just used that because I was trying to think of what chiks are into, and that was the first thing that came to mind (flame suit on!). If you say, "I hate shopping, what else do you like to do?" thats fine, just stick to one topic.

Oh yeah, the above sexist remark was a joke, it only applies to superficial, materialistic chicks.

[Wildcat]

^dude, wtf do you know? your 14 your balls probly even havent dropped yet.

anyways, i find it easy to see where a relationship is going. its either a totally physical thing or it actually has a chance of going somewhere. theres no middle ground, youll always have your bar bimbos and every once and a while youll meet a respectable girl. also its NEVER a totally emotional relationship, otherwise youd just be friends and going from friends to fucking NEVER EVER works out. nothing good can come from it, ever. trust me. bewarrrrrre :rofl:

[codo]

Originally posted by Carfanman
Ok, maybe that wasnt a great example, put like I said twice already, the point of the example wasn't that you should talk about shopping, the point was that what ever you talk about, dont play 20 questions, base your next question or response on what she said.

This is bad:

You: What do you do for a living?
Her: I'm a secretary
Y: Uh-huh, where do you live?
H: [to herself] WTF, I thought we were talking about my career. [out loud] umm, (wherever she lives)
Y: Do you like sports?
H: [to herself] what does that have to do with where I live? [out loud] yeah
Y: Whats your favorite TV show?
H: [to herself] am I on a date or being interrogated by a cop? [out loud] umm, I need to use the washroom. (goes to ladies room, climbs out window, falls into puddle, get angry, tells all her friends that you're a loser, you dont get any for the rest of your life, all because you kept jumping around.)

Ok, that was an exxageration, but you get what I'm trying to tell you. If you dont want to talk about shopping, dont, I just used that because I was trying to think of what chiks are into, and that was the first thing that came to mind (flame suit on!). If you say, "I hate shopping, what else do you like to do?" thats fine, just stick to one topic.

Oh yeah, the above sexist remark was a joke, it only applies to superficial, materialistic chicks.

carfanman leave your posts for another thread please...and do you say WTF to a girl? You talk all internetty on her? for instance your convo

carf:i need to go to the bathroom BRB
girl:????
Carf:do you like shopping?
girl:yes...are you gay?
carf: i have to go put on some makeup TTYL

the end

[codo]

okay sorry im being an ass im sorry carfanman.:burnout: :cry: :cry: :cry:

[Carfanman]

lol, no I dont talk like that in person, unless I'm quoting something I read on-line, and the person I'm quoting it too understands what I mean. I only used the shopping example because it sounded like you were talking about a materialistic ditz who cant have real conversation.
The only shopping I like is for sports stuff, knives, and electronics.


Wildcat- do me a favor and never post about my balls again. I know you hopefully didn't mean anything, but knowing another guy is thinking about my balls just makes me uncomfortable.

Also, you need to stop talking about my age everytime you think I'm wrong. Either you like my post or you dont, because you just dont like it or you do, my age should have nothing to do with it.

[Wildcat]

Originally posted by Carfanman
Wildcat- do me a favor and never post about my balls again. I know you hopefully didn't mean anything, but knowing another guy is thinking about my balls just makes me uncomfortable.


well im comfortable with my sextuality, so feel free to suck my balls.

[codo]

Originally posted by Wildcat


well im comfortable with my sextuality, so feel free to suck my balls.

:D

[LUDELVR]

Originally posted by Carfanman
Example convo:

You: So, what do you enjoy doing?
Her: Shopping
Y: Really? Where's your favorite place to go shopping?
H: The [whatever] mall.
Y: What do you like about it?
H: Well, I like that it's big...,



See, this is where my conversation would prolly take turn for the worse!

Me: So you like big things huh? :devil:

Anyway, conversation is truly an art form and some people are very good at it while some others are just pure ass!

With that being said, my initial art form starts off as being something nice simple. The lines are quite straight and colors quite discernable. The strokes are brilliantly done and the over scope of it is something to be admired.

Now...as I continue to drink, the art form shifts to a more abstract framework where the strokes become more sloshed, stumbling slashes and the colors are more slapped on then smoothly applied.

By the end of the night, all is lost and it's more of a finger painting...but for some reason, chicks dig the finger ...painting that is!!:dunno: :devil:

[googe]

Originally posted by Carfanman

Wildcat- do me a favor and never post about my balls again. I know you hopefully didn't mean anything, but knowing another guy is thinking about my balls just makes me uncomfortable.

Also, you need to stop talking about my age everytime you think I'm wrong. Either you like my post or you dont, because you just dont like it or you do, my age should have nothing to do with it.

age has everything to do with it in this case. youre 14, you cant even legally drive, and you cant afford to take girls out with money you get from walking a dog once a week (buying a happy meal doesnt count), and you probably have a curfew. what makes you think youre qualified to give dating advice to people quite a bit older than you when you wont even start dating for at least a few years, and you dont have any experience interacting with females at that age/maturity level in that context? and dont say you learned it reading rich dad poor dad...

[SiG Baby]

Originally posted by googe


age has everything to do with it in this case. youre 14, you cant even legally drive, and you cant afford to take girls out with money you get from walking a dog once a week (buying a happy meal doesnt count), and you probably have a curfew. what makes you think youre qualified to give dating advice to people quite a bit older than you when you wont even start dating for at least a few years, and you dont have any experience interacting with females at that age/maturity level in that context? and dont say you learned it reading rich dad poor dad...

:werd: At 14 you may think you have skills but in reality your still a kid.

[Carfanman]

I'm telling him how to talk to someone, although experience helps some people, sometimes you can need more than experience. I'm not giving him advice on getting into her pants, I'm giving him advice on how to talk to a person. This is how you would carry on a convo with a guy also, or anyone I was having a conversation This is just smalltalking, many people can do it with little "practice". I know how to talk to someone, he's asking for help, and I'm telling him the basic, steps for carrying on a conversation with someone, "just ask questions based on what they say and dont jump around". You dont need to be a dating guru to know that, there are plenty of guys my age who can have a conversation with a chick no problem, and plenty who stutter and then say something awkward. It reallly doesnt matter how old I am. There are plenty of people alot older who will give you the same advice.

But you know what, if you want to ignore it because I dont meet your "age standards", be my guest.

[codo]

hahaha, i think i should try haveing a conversation with her like carfanman suggested, what could it hurt anyways I don't really like her and if it screws up the date which it obviously will then it will atleast end up being a funny conversation. A funny story to tell such as "my last girlfriend i had i took advice from a 14 year old on conversation from an internet message board." The rest would really explain itself.