Our last came 5 weeks early because the wife had HELLP. Its a trip for it to be so sudden for sure. But congrats on the kid!Quote:
Originally Posted by lasimmon
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Our last came 5 weeks early because the wife had HELLP. Its a trip for it to be so sudden for sure. But congrats on the kid!Quote:
Originally Posted by lasimmon
Congrats. That's defintly not a bad thing. Our first one came early as well and had to stay in NICU for a week, otherwise perfectly fine. But it meant my wife got to take it easy and recover for the week while we slowly get everything ready at home, and the NICU nurses taught us everything we need to know like how to bath a 5lb baby. It was great. Such a blessing in disguise.Quote:
Originally Posted by lasimmon
Did not have that luxury with the second one... Shit got real fast as soon as we they sent us home less than 12 hours after birth...
Many congrats @lasimmon . I hope mom and baby are well.
I took my 3 year old to his first car meet this weekend, a Cars and Coffee meet @ Langley Porsche. It was a really fun dad life moment! His reaction to some of the cars was great. Big variety of cars to see from old to new, huge turnout, he was talking about it all day.
We have #2 coming in September, time to upgrade the SUV now...
I gotta laugh at all the “goes quick my kid is already three!”… Fuck man… It goes way faster than that! Mine are 23 and 26 now and it feels like just a few years ago they were babies. Every year is faster than the last and next thing you know you have arthritis and nap while eating dinner at 4:30pm!
Some days go slow, but the months sure fly by.. if you know what i mean lol
I have a one year old as of Friday, and a 3 year old in august :nut:
Mine are 2 and almost 4. I had a full year off work last year and got to spend so much time with them. Back at work for 4 months now, they're in full time daycare. The time with them is now more precious.
Raffi is a kids musician I grew up with. He's coming to Calgary for Father's day. My daughter knows lots of his songs, but I may be more excited then her to go!
A little oil change and boat vacation recently. I'm hoping to expose her (and my son) to enough diy tasks that they have the option to do little stuff like this in the future (and help me haha):
https://i.imgur.com/tmU0QZKh.jpg
https://i.imgur.com/NOqDPcmh.jpg
Thanks a lot guys! Using the time to actually get ready more here….
That’s awesome! And congrats on #2.Quote:
Originally Posted by nismodrifter
We also have #2 coming in November.
Got the boy home yesterday. First night last night went really well… almost too well. Just up for some feedings and slept no problem. Haven’t even heard him cry since he was born…
Just waiting for the shoe to drop!
Haha the newborn stage is very easy.
Literally eat, sleep and poop.
Also huge congrats and enjoy the journey!
I recommend sleep training as early as possible... We did this when both boys were 3 months old.
Sometimes it just works out. Our first was easy, never complained, slept through the night from super early on.Quote:
Originally Posted by lasimmon
Our second made up for it though and was (is) difficult enough for 2 kids :rofl:
If you don't need sleep training, that's great. If you need it you REALLY need it. Is kitty Raymond still around? That broad was old when my kids were new, but helped us.
BIG PSA...... Nursemaids elbow, if you are fucking around with your kid (swinging them around, dragging them by their arms etc) and they act like you broke their arm but everything looks fine, and they cant pinpoint the pain, it is probably nursemaids elbow.. Don't tell them they're being soft and get over cause you'll feel really bad when you find out about this :facepalm:
Congrats. The 6 weeks early thing is scary. We are basically 6 weeks more or less from our due date of July 14! My biggest fear is the baby coming next weekend when I am in Montreal for F1. lol.Quote:
Originally Posted by lasimmon
I read you can really easily fuck up their shoulders doing this too. I only swing them around via holding under the armpits haha.Quote:
Originally Posted by JfuckinC
When I'm playing with my kids like that, I usually let their grip strength be the limiting factor. A kids grip will be the fuse in the system, but if you are holding them by the forearms then their body won't let go when it becomes too much and injury becomes more likely.
look at this way, she had her full weight on the ground (laying flat on her back) and i just pulled her in a circle so she was facing the other way... that's all it took lol Definitely taking it easier moving forward..
Yeah wife did it to the boy not long after he started walking...she grabbed him to stop him falling down a couple steps and wrenched his joint. She was about to go to emerg cos she was sure she had full on dislocated it but turned out to be NME. She did the handshake trick and he was fine right away.Quote:
Originally Posted by JfuckinC
too much pop
Kids need to fall down. It's the most important activity they undertake for the first 3-4 years.
I’d argue most problems with society would be solved if you keep letting them fall down for another 14-20 yearsQuote:
Originally Posted by ExtraSlow
Other than the fact he was on concrete steps, I agree, let them fall
Or 75 yearsQuote:
Originally Posted by killramos
Help, I've fallen and I can't get upQuote:
Originally Posted by Buster
Suzuka 2015 for me and our 3rd. I ended up not going just in case and gave my ticket away. I would've made it back with time to spare haha, kid was born 6 days after. Wasn't worth the risk of missing that moment.Quote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
If you need someone to give the ticket to, you have my number.
@shakalaka
You know you have to keep your kid for longer than six months, right?
:rofl:Quote:
Originally Posted by Buster
You are certifiably insane if you don't cancel that. I'm not kidding. Considering the past complications and even the best case scenario is you get to hear about "how he skipped town right before the big day"... for decades.Quote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
Don't be poor and cancel that.
Dad's biggest responsibility during pregnancy and the first 6-12 months of the baby's life is to the mother.
Being away this close is a very bad idea even if the baby doesn't come early.
This is a time when your relationship with the mother can get stronger if you work at it.
Wow you guys are making me feel like shit, lol. My wife doesn't even care and is planning to stay with her parents during that weekend. But maybe I will talk with her again to ascertain what she truly feels.
"Oh, I'm fine with it. You do whatever, Honey! I won't hold this against you until the end of time."Quote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
- every human female ever
Don't ask, cancel it and tell her she is your main priority no matter what.
This x(infinity).Quote:
Originally Posted by ExtraSlow
Easiest decision of 2023.
You must spread some Reputation around before giving it to ExtraSlow again.
Definitely cancel. 0 debate.
Even if the baby doesn’t come, if you aren’t there to take her to the hospital during scares and little medical problems ( which always come up) you are fuck.
YesQuote:
Originally Posted by ThePenIsMightier
Think this is how every car purchase talk goes? :rofl:Quote:
Originally Posted by ThePenIsMightier
This is the right move.Quote:
Originally Posted by ExtraSlow
Shak - no matter how well prepared you think you two are, or how level headed your wife is, or how much family support she has, there's nothing that actually prepares you for the birth of your first child and the time leading right up to it. You're far enough out that it's unlikely that anything major will happen, but it's such an uncertain time, especially for the mother, that you really need to be there.
It's hard to comprehend, but there will never be the same feeling of it just being the two of you after you have your first kid... I was lucky in that I was able to take about a month off before my first was born and looking back, it was honestly the best time I spent with my wife... Do what you can now to make the most of this time... After you've been through the first, everything is so much less uncertain and - can't find the right word - easier, that you can feel ok being away closer to the birth of the next one (I was in the US about a week before the birth of two of my others). But for #1, especially in hindsight, no way... Enjoy these times.
+1 for cancel. When my wife was pregnant with our first, I was still travelling a shitload for work. We weren't even close, like month 7 or 8 (I can't remember exactly), and I was out of town for work one night and she called me because one of our dogs got under her feet, she tripped and fell and landed on her stomach/face. Her brother had to come to take her to the hospital, and I felt awful. She ended up being fine, but that was an absolutely miserable experience for me (and her, I suppose :rofl: ).
And fwiw, it was totally a freak accident. My dogs rarely get in the way, my wife is fit/athletic. Weird shit happens when women are pregnant, and it's a good idea to be around for when (not if) something happens.
I've been hearing about how my dad wasn't there for my younger brother's birth for 42 years... that shit doesn't go away.
You may also find you won't be able to enjoy the event properly worrying about your wife and baby-to-be, or at least now you won't be able to thanks to Beyond haha. But I agree, canceling is the right move.
ordering up a black baby is another problemQuote:
Originally Posted by schurchill39
It involves an awkward conversation with your wife and a dude named Darnell or Tyrone.
+10 on cancel.
F1 would be sweet, but potentially missing the birth of your first child to partake would be catastrophic.
And this x Infinity.Quote:
Originally Posted by ThePenIsMightier
Mine said "go ahead" as well. We talked about it years later, and yea if the baby was born while I wasn't there, it would've been a huge issue.Quote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
Don't cancel. Send a proxy in your place to the event. I'm available.
Life is about experiences.
Can you have an F1 experience in the future after the birth of your first child? Yes.
Can you experience the birth of your first child with your wife again after it happens? Maybe, but only if you are Nick Cannon.
So all we need to close this out is someone like Mar or someone on an [ignore list] to come in and say "just go - it'll be fine, Brah" and we can conclude that cancelling is certifiably the correct choice.
I was in Canmore on a golf trip with buddies when my guy came 10 days ago. Luckily I wasn’t drinking a ton and when the call came I was able to scramble and get back to Calgary and to the hospital aboit an hour before he came.Quote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
Don’t think I would be able to forgive myself if i missed it.
I had a detailed chat with my wife again this morning and she's adamant that there is no way I should be canceling with us this far out with the due date. It's not the money, we actually might have a spare General Admission ticket that we paid $500 for to the scalpers on stubhub. We initially bought GA tickets when shit was going crazy and it was officially sold out and paid $500 each but then we got the hospitality passes through one of the guys' work so we will be using those instead obviously so 1 for sure and possibly 2 tickets for General Admission will go to waste anyway. So it's definitely not the money concern that makes me not want to cancel. Anyway I will talk to her again tonight but this morning we decided to see what her doctor says tomorrow at the appointment when they do checks to make the final decision of whether going or not.
if someone wants a cheap (cheaper than what we paid) GA ticket (possibly 2) let me know and I will talk to the group.
Govern yourself accordingly shak :DQuote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
Cancel it. The births of my two children are seared into my brain. Two of the most joyous days of my life.
It's not even the actual birth, but everything that leads up that day and all of the pre-birth what-ifs.Quote:
Originally Posted by suntan
That said, this is going about as predictably as it could:
Shak asks for advice... A bunch of people that have relevant experience chime in... Shak does the exact opposite, for seemingly no good reason (it's F1 in Montreal... It'll be there next year)
Gold. :rofl:
you might say its like trading in an R8 for an F-type....lol
First of all, I didn't ask for advise on shit. I simply made a comment about how that's a small concern in the back of mind based on what another person posted and Beyond in the typical fashion started delivering unsolicited advise in hordes.Quote:
Originally Posted by you&me
So while I appreciate what input someone might have to offer, the ultimate decision will be mine, which I will make in consultation with my wife. Haha.
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Originally Posted by Buster
Haha yes. Or trading the AMG GTS for a Ridgeline bro. :)
You bastard!Quote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
even if just driving to sobey's why not :bigpimp:Quote:
Originally Posted by Buster
This has the makings of a Mar 3.0 user title.
Difference is that he actually asked for advice, whereas, I didn't.Quote:
Originally Posted by rage2
In posting here, by default you need to accept (and expect) that a bunch of grizzled old bastards are going to foist their opinion on you whether you explicitly asked for it or not; how do you think I know so much about about parenting - 89coupe & mitsu3000GT - no one asked, but they tell!
Easy, big fella.Quote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
As you mentioned, you know that if someone makes a comment here, advice and opinions will rain down... It is a discussion forum afterall.
You're about to go through one of the most meaningful and transformative experiences of your life, which most don't fully realize until it's in the rearview.... Unsolicited or not, you might want to take into consideration what those that have gone before you have to say on the matter... Or not.
I'm the one that started it. I let his comment sit there for almost 18 hours before I had to chime in.
I can't believe all you other jackals either can't read, or have such restraint!
I can take the heat.
deadQuote:
Originally Posted by xylathanegtr
All good points. Though, my response was directly in reply to you saying, 'I asked for advise...and I am choosing not to do what everyone is saying'. So just making sure we are all clear here that I did not ask for advise and I am not choosing to do something contrary to the advise that I solicited. It is a forum after all and everyone has the right to say what they feel, just not what is factually incorrect. I just don't wanna be put in the same category as Mar - no offence to him. Haha.Quote:
Originally Posted by you&me
I feel like everyone is more concerned about this than the only person that actually matters in this whole situation (my wife). Haha. And we are still 6 weeks out from the due date btw with no indication or sign that the baby is coming earlier, so while I am well cognizant of all the points everyone has made, I will ultimately make a decision in conjunction with my wife after she's had her dr. appointment tomorrow.
Let's all move on to a different discussion point now.
Ho-Lee Fuck.Quote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
Must be a different culture you live in bro.. good god :rofl:
Well we do belong to a different culture than the majority Caucasian population that Canada is if that's what you mean. :dunno:
Prepare for Tiger Mom?
Yes I’m also culturally fluid:DQuote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
:angel:
Haha yeah and I mean just from a logical standpoint.Quote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
When my wife was pregnant, her needs typically trumped all of mine. There was no question. Maybe I'm just p-whipped :whipped::whipped:
Haha. I feel like I am p-whipped, tho my wife says otherwise and points to my car changing habits and her not putting a foot down against it. I tell her she can but if I can’t do cars then it’ll have to be hookers and blow so she can decide. Haha.
But in all seriousness, I am extremely lucky to have married a woman like my wife from almost every single angle that’s important in life. Only annoying part is the constant nagging about me being lazy, not doing more around the house myself and hiring people instead. Haha. That I feel is a minor issue in exchange of all the positives.
You know your relationship best, I hope all your choices lead to positive outcomes. Best wishes bro!
Shak going into parenthood will be the most entertaining part of beyond2023
Don't worry, I will watch a bunch of YouTube videos one night and have all this shit locked down. Haha.
Another vote for Cancelling , you definitely don't need to take any chances.
I am sure you and your family knows the best and you will make the decision that suits your family.
@shakalaka how quick could you get back from Frog city if the need arose?
I worked for Bob when my first was born and it was also covid time, so we were able to work out a good paternity leave
When the twins came, I was back in the field and travelling 100%...my boss knew the due date and that it was twins so became a complicated pregnancy immediately. Whilst it wasn't always possible, they tried to schedule me locally closer to the due date but with a few weeks to go I was in Syracuse with the understanding that if anything at all happened I was out of there and on the next flight.
They came exactly on due date and by that point I'd been home for over a week and then had a while at home to soak it all in
So whilst my situation was a little different (business travel, not pleasure) I'm in the "depends on the situation" camp and you really need to play it by ear
Okay points taken. Thanks everyone for the input. Now let's talk about some advice after the kid arrives. I am not taking any time off officially though my work is flexible enough if I am not in Court. So I just thought I will go in and deal with office/court commitments as I need to and then be at home. Is that the right move? Or should I at least have 1 full week (2 if possible) completely booked off so I am not going in at all? It'll be hard to manage as I didn't schedule my calendar accordingly from beforehand. For reference, wife will be on mat leave of course, my mother-in-law is local to Edmonton so will be around all-the-time I am sure and my mom is likely going to come up from Calgary and stay with us for some time I imagine.
I had a solid 5 weeks off both times, the first 2 weeks are the hardest on the sleep scheduleQuote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
Having family close will be a huge benefit
I took off two weeks for both kids.
Gives you time to get into a good routine.
Trust me, routine is key.
Don't be afraid to turn people away, everyone is going to be very excited to meet the little one, but at the same time it exhausts you and mom further.
Focus is now on you and your family.
Best of luck.
My advice above still works.Quote:
Originally Posted by ExtraSlow
Protect the mother from the visitors as much as needed. Turn away people or when people come over, YOU show them the baby while mom takes a bath or a nap. You take as much off her plate as possible, both mentally and physically.
Dude, it’s going to be the best and worst time of your life.Quote:
Originally Posted by shakalaka
Best to worst and back to best at a moments notice. And hope you don’t like sleep or free time hah.
Nah, just be a 'coupe and thrive
This Issa the wayQuote:
Originally Posted by ExtraSlow