+1 on the light weight infant seat (went with the nuna pipa) & daiper pail.
We got a Thule jogger (urban glide) and despite it being pretty huge its been amazing for snow/rough terrain. Totally worth the money.
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+1 on the light weight infant seat (went with the nuna pipa) & daiper pail.
We got a Thule jogger (urban glide) and despite it being pretty huge its been amazing for snow/rough terrain. Totally worth the money.
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You should try giving them Red Bull. I mean not much more than half a can (I'm not a monster!!)
Their face really lights up when they drink that while in a Bumbo on the counter.
Second this, the Nanit is great camera and app. lots of nice data too, overall way better than the POS Motorola camera thing we used for our first.
An update on my post in this thread from about a month ago... we enlisted Lisa Gelinas from the Mama Coach to help us with sleep training on our 5 month old. She was great. We did a modified cry it out (CIO) method in which we let her cry at night until she fell asleep but went in to check on her at set intervals, progressively lengthening them over time. The first week was rocky, not gonna lie, but now a few weeks out we got exactly the results we wanted, she is now sleeping through the night 10-12 hours waking up once midway or not at all to feed. Daytime naps are in the 3-4 hrs range total, no sweat. Totally different baby now, way happier and easier to manage. We've been freed from the shackles of sleep deprivation and constant frustration. Life is better now, it's a huge milestone step for them/us.
I wish the OP a well rested baby that is capable of sleep. If things are going off the rails 3-4 months in, don't be afraid to start tinkering, but be consistent. Read lots of books, don't be afraid to ask for help. CIO methods and their cousins are powerful tools, yes the emotional investment is perhaps more taxing, but remember you are trying to improve life for them (with sleep) and you as parents will reap the benefits.
My wife swears by “taking cara babies” video courses which has helped a lot with our daughter sleeping and isn’t terribly expensive.
We also used these videos. They were very helpful. We did hire a sleep coach/consultant to further guide us through the process of sleep training. This helped us get sleep/wake times down to the minute.
Our boy just turned 1 last week. The sleep deprivation is no longer an issue. I am drained at the end of the day just trying to keep up with him. :zzz:
Lots of sound advice in this thread. So many resources out there for moms, very few for dads. This kind of thread is great.
On the subject of teeth, every kid is different, but DO NOT TRUST YOUR KID TO BRUSH THEIR OWN TEETH. Mine was doing really well brushing her own under supervision, so we figured we could trust her to do her own nightly routine. Due to Covid we avoided the dentist most of age 5. Then took her last January because a tooth was bugging her, and holy fuck. 5 major cavities on her molars that kids keeps until 10-12yo, so she had to have one pulled completely and 4 got silver caps.
Genetics is part of it, as my family has shitty teeth. I've brushed twice a day my entire life, and still have a crap ton of cavities, along with multiple other tooth issues. I won't even go into what some of my cousins had done.
But yeah, now I'm back to brushing her teeth for her because I don't want her to go through what I've had to.
Brutal, our kid had a fall, and messed up his bottom 2 front baby teeth. This is going to be fun to deal with in the long run, they had to remove them. Hopefully it won't screw up his speech development too much. Then again I was missing 2 teeth from both my top and bottom front teeth when I was a kid. They rotted away due to milk or something and had to be pulled.
I'm sure there is some real quality parenting out there, and I'm sure a factor in these was leaving children unattended or using the seat as a means of "child care". Be cautious, its fine. All of the lowest common denominator warnings and product recalls are just that. Don't be the lowest common denominator.
And, FWIW, the number of injuries vs. units sold in your graphic is infinitesimal value. Better yet, don't let your kid sleep in a crib, those things are death traps. Keep them awake at all times
https://www.cpsc.gov/s3fs-public/pdf...21313FINAL.pdf
I guess we got lucky, ours has been sleeping through the night since he was about 5 weeks
We must be bad parents by not waking him exactly every 3 hours to feed him and only feeding him when he's hungry :thumbsup:
You really want to keep arguing about what a great idea it is to perch children on a counter that's >3' high with a hard floor, below? Ok.
I've smoked a cigarette and I didn't die of cancer, therefore it's fine. I shoplifted a few chocolate bars and didn't get caught, so that's fine. I'll start promoting what good ideas those are.
I don't drive when I'm so tired that I can barely see, but people will be forced to parent in that state. So, why take a small probability risk on something that can have a catastrophic consequence when you're potentially in that state?
PS - I've had my kid roll off a change table and onto the carpet. It was the damnedest thing. She couldn't do it the week before and then she did it. Almost like they develop and change at alarming rates. 33" down to carpet and screams that will haunt me until I die (even though she was not injured, at all).
It's super weird seeing turbo medic arguing this side.
most kids sleep fine. Some don't. If yours doesn't, don't fuck around, get help. Same as a lot of things.
And in terms of legit fatherhood advice, the #1 most important thing you can do for your children and your family is to be there, and be truly present. Work less if you can, unplug from the email/phone, and be open to spending your time with the kids even when you aren't "accomplishing" something. That's the most important time of all.
Congrats dude!
Re sleep trainer, its a huge stress reliever. The lady we hired was recommended by multiple colleagues. She help setup a sleep training program which we followed, and then was available on by phone or e-mail follow up to see how the bed time went. She could then suggest tweaks to the routine accordingly.
+1 for hiring a sleep trainer/expert if your kid does not sleep.
With my first we eventually broke down and hired a sleep trainer when he was 11 months old. Best $350 we have ever spent. He went from sleeping for 2 hours at a time and needing to nurse multiple times during the night to fall back asleep, to sleeping from 730pm to 730am and rarely waking up throughout the night within the first week of implementing the plan. It was amazing.
With my second, we started to sleep train him as soon as he was about 4 months old and he has slept through the night consistently from that point on.
Agree with sleep training! For us, sleep training happened at 4 months and it went amazing. We did it from a book called "the happy sleeper", and it took all of 1 night and he's been great since then. Routine was huge, weaning a soother was huge, and empowering him to self soothe helped him sleep through the night with nearly no issues. I never understand why people don't sleep train, I have friends that don't and I'm all feeling rested over here
If anyone needs / wants a jogging stroller - my second kid has finally grown out of ours recently. Fire me a PM.
Its an older Instep (run around) Jogging stroller with hand brake. Paid like $100 for it used....free for a beyonder. Great condition, and got me thru 6 years of Ironman training and running sessions with my kid in tow. haha (edit: spoken for already)
I didn't read all the posts, but I have a 16 month old, with a second on the way in 3 months.
https://takingcarababies.com/ was our bible for sleep training. It has worked awesome. My daughter is very easy to put to sleep, following the lessons.
We also signed up at the hospital for some baby training, a few months before the birth. It taught swaddling, diaper changing, what to expect, feeding, how to help the Mom during the birth process, etc. Very helpful. Everyone in the class was noobs like us. They may offer it online now. We also to a hospital course for baby first aid (choking, etc).
I’ve got a question for people for their opinions around car seats. Any life hacks to getting around the sheer depth that rear facing car seats take up? Recommendations for ones that take up less space?
We have a Nuna Pipa and it’s great for day to day, but even in the wife’s SUV my knees are touching the dash in front of it which kind of blows chunks... I’m considering what would happen in a car where space is even more constrained than her SUV.
It makes me consider if maybe a “permanent” install rear facing convertible would be more compact for occasional use, yea you can’t carry the baby around in it but it works and is still safe.
Anyway, very interested in any thoughts and elaboration.
rear facing seats are monsters and don't fit well in most vehicles. They do fit well in minivans and Ford crew cab trucks. I have no suggestions on specific seats that are smaller. Many families like to rush the kids into front-facing ASAP for convenience alone, despite the fact that rear facing is MUCH safer.
Yea I’m thinking more of an occasional works in a pinch option without being overtly unsafe for a baby.
Our pipa is fine for her Lexus, I can live with the fitment in there. My comment is more that it’s already tight in the SUV so how to accommodate something with less space. My though was are there any “compactish” rear facing convertibles that people have found or like.
I’m about as likely to buy a pornstar red track hawk as I am to move to Aspen. Or drive a Tesla. Or maybe a Kia.
The graco 4ever convertible was the best fit for my wifes former rogue. The diono is fucking massive when rear facing. Ironically, I'm now looking at it because it appears to fit much better forward facing.
Buy bigger SUV.
In for smaller car seat recommendations. This is one of the main reasons why we got the RDX rather then a Tacoma. Apparently these rear facing seats are just fucking massive. But we also need something that fits in the Fit.
We have an NX which is the usual baby hauler. I imagine similar to IS but maybe a bit bigger?
I’m not that tall and I definitely couldn’t open the glove compartment but it’s “fine”.
We have two Clek Fllo car seats, one in my wife's 2015 RDX and one in my F150. In the rear facing position you'd never notice it in the truck but in the RDX you definitely have to have the front seat quite a bit forward especially when its in the infant recline position. When you are able to adjust it up to the next weight class incline position it fits better in the RDX but we put it behind the passenger seat as my wife is only 5'6.
My wife says for "compact" rear facing car seats check out the Nuna Rava, Cosco Scenera-Next, Graco Forever, or Graco Extend-to-Fit. Apparently we have a friend who drives a Mazda 3 and the only one that would fit rear facing is the Nuna Rava.
Rear facing seats suck grundel but it's only for about two years.
My wife is shorter than me so I always stuck the seat behind her and I drove. Now that we have 2 kids the forward facing seat is behind me and rear facing behind her. Always take my car since its bigger for family trips but ran into the same issue when I used to drive my Beamer and had no room for a car seat at all.
We have a diono and if you use the angle adjuster for rear facing makes a difference of couple inches of space for seats. In my wife’s Kia and for one I have in my bmw allows for seat not to be right to the front. Other trick if vehicle allows is to put in middle and buckets from front fits between perfectly. https://www.westcoastkids.ca/radian-...ngle-adjuster#
Maybe lucky, or maybe just way overfeeding with formula before bedtime? A lot of parents do the overfeeding on purpose to make the kid sleep. But a bottle makes it very easy to overfeed accidentally since they flow so fast. Everyone does what they have to for their sanity. I've learned to live with completely broken sleep the last 8 months, if he goes a 5 hour stretch it's heaven.
Because of the studies surrounding it. I don't judge, everyone should raise their kids how they see fit. For us personally we decided that with the overwhelming evidence on the subject, that we were not going to sleep train. "Self Soothe" is the term people always use, but they don't really soothe per se. They just learn that if they cry, nobody comes. It's a good way to break a trust bond with the child right away, which is something that can be beneficial to have later in life when they need questions answered about sex, drugs, relationships, religion, etc. But it's not like sleep trained babies are growing up to be serial killers, so I'm sure it's not the end of the world, or maybe no big deal at all.
It's a conversation I don't like having with people, because they tend to take it personally if they sleep trained. As a sleep deprived parent, I completely understand why someone would sleep train, and certainly have no judgement or malice towards them about what they chose to do.
And Canada is weird. They are very against co-sleeping for reasons of potentially rolling on your baby and killing it or something? Meanwhile SIDS is WAY more common in babies that crib sleep. Japan exclusively co-sleeps and has the lowest SIDS in the world last I read.
It would be a pain in the ass, but you could always ditch the base and just buckle the seat itself in. Some are rated to do that. I don't know what other option there is if leg space is a super premium? Buy a Yukon XL maybe? Ours is a pain in the ass too. We did just switch to a convertible awhile ago, and it is better at least.
Biggest mistake we made was trying to be super prepared and buy everything in advance. You find out that half the stuff you bought the kid doesn't like or doesn't have any value. We got the Halo Basinet, kid ended up being a contact sleeper. Got the fancy Owlet baby camera monitor system, but a camera was no use to us when we realized we were going to be doing co-sleeping. Got the Momaroo swing because of it's great reviews, turns out it is an epic piece of junk that the kid hated and seems to be the same thing we hear from lots of other parents.
One thing I'm a huge advocate for, is identifying tongue tie!! Our kid was checked in the hospital by the Pede, and told no tongue tie. Wifes nipples were getting tore to shit, and we saw 4 different Lactation Consultants in the hospital while we were locked there. Not a single one of them ever considered there was an issue with the kid, they just kept telling the wife she was breastfeeding wrong. By week 6 when the kids weight was dropping percentiles on the chart, he would feed for half hour on each tit, would not sleep longer than 2 hour stretches maximum, could not be put down ever. We decided we were done dealing with public healthcare. Got a private LC that we paid for, she immediately diagnosed the tongue tie, we booked in to get it lasered, and never had a problem since. His weight jumped back up to where it should be, he drains a tit in like 5 minutes now, he can sleep without laying directly on my chest, and the wife isn't losing her mind with how hard breastfeeding is.
I think most people(myself included) think that a tongue tie is when the front of the tongue is tied down. But a tongue tie can be just 50% length of the tongue underneath, and cause massive issues. Not just with feeding either. They're starting to find out that this can cause sleep apnea later in life, wisdom teeth issues, and a host of other problems. The hospitals don't seem to care enough to pick up on this, because if the baby doesn't gain weight, they can just tell you to switch to bottle feeding and problem is solved.
We used the angle adjuster on our Diono with rear facing and it definitely helped a bit, but even then it was still always relatively uncomfortable sitting in the front passenger seat (Q5). Ultimately we just lived with it and at about 11 months switched it to front facing. I know the recommendation is to leave it rear facing first two years and 'mandatory' for 1st year but our kids were pretty big around 11 months so we just did it.
We have Diono convertible seats, and they are indeed humungous when rear-facing. We put the angle adjuster in for the extra couple inches room, but front seat still only comfortable for my 5'3" wife (which is fine, because I'm always the driver when we're both in the car). The Diono is great when front facing, but it is a pain in the dick to switch between cars and as mentioned is pretty heavy.
Here's a tidbit that I got from our resident baby gear expert when I asked what would be a good fit in RDX (on the small side for rear seat room). Only reason I didn't go with his recommendations and still went with the Diono is because it was on sale, we liked it front facing, and wife still fits when it was installed rear facing.
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I can basically confirm that a Yukon XL fixes the issue haha, but seems like a ridiculous solution to the problem. The removing the base and trying only with the seatbelt sounds intriguing to me, fortunately my pipa supports that.
Might be something I will try over the lunch hour to see the relative difference to installing with the base.
I am trying to avoid basically doing what Sabad suggested, but its not out of the consideration for the use case I am contemplating. If I have to pickup a convertible a bit earlier than we originally contemplated that doesn't really bother me. Unfortunately our daughter is really quite small ( 15th percentile for weight but 50th for length ) so pushing her into the next level of seat seems like an unrealistic plan.
Nothing to add beside confirming that those rear facing seats do take up ALOT of room and our solutionwas just to get a bigger car. We have the Dionos in all our cars and it just barely fits in the X5 and Cayenne without having to adjust the front seat forward.
In my wife's old GLK the front seat had to be pushed all the way forward to that point that I could barely sit in it my myself and I'm only 5'10. We got another one to put into my inlaw's S550 and even that barely fit without having to really put the front seat back. I can't imagine the Diono in rear-facing form fitting in any cars like A4, Mazda3, etc... without completely sacrificing the front passenger seat.
That said, the Diono is bulky but skinny. We were able to go on long road trips with 4 adults (2 front 2 back) + the car seat in the X5. I think it's designed so that you can have 3 across if you really wanted to.
This is pretty much my wife and mine's train of thought. My parents were FOB and poor as hell so i co-slept with my mom and brother in a big bed until probably around 3 or 4 years old while dad slept in another bed. Wife was similar growing up in Lebanon so that probably influenced us too.
Definitely a lot of crankyness due to sleep deprivation the first 8 months or so doing it this way but it gets better. Son is now 3.5 and he mostly sleeps through the night in his own bed but if he wakes up from a nightmare and comes into our bed we just let it happen, not a big deal. Our daughter sleeps from 8-6AM and again if she happens to wake up screaming from teething or something one of us will go get her and let her finish the night in our bed between us.
Sleep training for sure sounds like a dream and i applaud parents that can do it, but it doesn't mean you failed if you take a different approach. Just do whatever works and always keep it in the back of your mind it gets better.
I used this guy for rear facing infant seat back in the day.
https://ca.pegperego.com/baby/primo-viaggio-4-35
Was the smallest one I found. Fit nicely in the back of both the C63 BS and RC-F. It removes easily to carry the baby around.
Nope, he's breast and supplemented with formula for lunch usually. Basically as soon as we got his tongue tie fixed he's been a dream, with the exception of him already having 6 teeth through before he was 6 months!
Our Safety1st didn't even fit in the Ecosport, which was annoying as the back seats seemed huge for such a small car when we first got it...which i'm thinking was mostly due to the roof height rather than the legroom
And this, Expedition Max worked for us nicely, and with 2 dogs soon to be 150lbs each, the extra trunk space will be nice :)
There is now a long RX350-L.
OmG stop getting me triggered on the Diono car seats! They are heavy enough to impact the tidal waters in the Atlantic.
I friggin love the A Class AMG, but the wife wouldn't let us buy something so "low and car like"
I had to get a B-Class in the UK cos the ML was a pig to road tax and fuel and the C-Class was too "low and car like"
"Happy wife, happy life, boring car"
Other than horridly garbage bluetooth in the Lexus', I love the NX. Still considering getting one when we are done with the Merc. Because the NX has that adjustable bench seat in the back, I think it actually has a lot better rear leg room than say the Audi Q3/5 or GLK, etc.
Just to stay on topic of baby stuff. I hear everyone talk about the Diono as the cadilac of car seats. But if you ever have to have multiple car seats at once, the Clek is the narrowest on the market from what I read. We went with the Clek Foonf because it provides the most room in the car. Plus it is Canadian company which is nice. Because of our kids weight currently, it is supposed to be at its greatest incline position, which still gives us more front seat room than the UppaBaby infant seat we had. But once he is a little heavier, we can lean the car seat farther forward(toward the rear since it is rear facing for now), and it will free up even more room in the front seat.
I'm not going to judge you if you chose to do that because it worked for you, if your kid didn't sleep comfortably on his own, or didn't settle, or whatever, but don't frame it as its detrimental to the kids who sleep trained with no issue, that's why people take it personally. I don't sit here and say your kid is going to become snowflake soft because you coddled him to sleep, so why would you say my kid is going to have trust issues? This is the problem with the non sleep training group, they claim some bizarre thing about maladjusted kids because of detachment syndromes because they sleep in their own bed? I'm sure the evidence is well supported in some helicopter parent groups, where the groupthink is the same. My kid, at 5 months, knows when its bedtime, get read a story, listens to some lullabies, get heavy eyes and blinks, gets placed in his crib BEFORE he is asleep so he doesn't wake up confused and feeling abandoned because he knows he was there before he fell asleep, and sleeps fine through the night. He's happy as shit all day long, plays, trusts, eats, learns, etc. This took no time, and virtually no effort, with no cruelty, no "letting him cry endlessly until he figures it out".
I'd love to see these "studies" you're referencing. Allow me to do some of the work for you
https://pediatrics.aappublications.o...37/6/e20151486
https://pediatrics.aappublications.o...tent/130/4/643
All I know is that everyone you talk to did it the right way, and "knows" that other ways will be worse in some major way. Fuck that attitude.
That's all I'm saying. If my friends don't want to sleep train, great! Don't! But don't come up with a bunch of fake later in life findings to make it seem like you're doing your kid a favor, that in turn are a backhanded jab at those that sleep trained. Your teens trust in you is more a product of their experiences from parenting and guidance in their more mentally conscious years than at a few months of age laying in their crib. This works for me because I like sleep too :burnout:
My parents had a '16 NX and that touch-pad infotainment alone is a complete deal breaker for me. It doe shave more room in the old GLK but less room than the new GLC. All said, it's a good car for the price. They got the F sport Series 3 with pre-paid maintenance and extended warranty for <$60K. That seems like good value.
I didn't think Diono is consider higher end is it? or maybe it's because we got all of ours onsale for 30-50% off, including one when from katz kidz when they were closing. I originally wanted the Clek Foonf but wife doens't want to spend that much on it... then she wanted the Uppababy Knox and i definitly dont want to spend that much. So Diono at ~ $250 seemed like a great deal
Diono is considered "higher end" and I do believe they are also a Canadian company.
I hated mine but was pleased to get a great price for it when I sold it.
*In before some Aspen shit-dick rattles off 5 car seats that cost more. I didn't say it was a custom Rolls Royce.
I got both my Dionos for under 275 each. One at toys r us when they had a wicked sale, and the other at kacz kids when they closed down. So I guess that’s a parenting tip - keep an eye out for sales while you’re still using the newborn seats during first 6 months or so, then buy ASAP if you see a good deal on a higher end convertible.
Edit: well look at that, one of the models is on sale now at toys r us for $280. This is one of the better ones too with the head support
https://www.babiesrus.ca/en/Diono-ra.../8C113808.html
I didn't frame it any certain way. Someone asked(rather rudely too, insinuating you're stupid if you don't sleep train), and I responded with why someone might choose not to. I was even very clear about the fact that both ways are fine, and tried to be as straight forward as I could that it wasn't from a judgemental place. But I see you've chosen to be offended by it regardless. I'm sure whatever you do to raise your kid will be just fine, so stay focused on that and don't worry about anything else. Good luck.
Pretty much this. As witnessed above.
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I thought those Diono's were up there price wise like the clek and uppababy? Like 600$ range. We just saw how big they are and it was no way we could go that route.
i think there is a separate thread somewhere for arguing about whether pop ruins your kids
Which sleep training camp makes you want to put your infant on the kitchen counter?
Pro or Anti?
Does one of those make you tell stories to First Aid classes?
I bet it does...
*Asking for @SKR
you forgot #sorrynotsorry
Figured I’d rather not start a new thread….
Anyone have any insights on different “standards” for car seats and how quickly we expect new designs to show up in Canada?
Getting close to needing a couple new car seats for the baby, so I have been browsing around and got myself kind of psyched for a seat that I later realized isn’t available in Canada…
https://nunababy.com/uk/catalog/prod...olor_ref=16366
The ability to rotate the seat in place for strapping in and out with good secure latch anchors seemed like a huge win to me?
Any idea on when I could expect these new systems to show up in Canuckistan or is it best not waiting around?
I probably don’t really NEED a new seat for 2-3 months but could transition any time. My hope was to start shopping for one in a couple weeks after my new car lands.
I wouldn’t hold your breath.
The rotating thing has been around long before nuna did it, but I don’t think any of them are certified in Canada.
Fwiw we’ve been happy with our diono seats. They weigh 7 tons, but if you aren’t switching the seat between cars, it’s irrelevant. They’re monsters when rear facing, but some of the most compact (width and depth) once you spin them forward.
I’ll look into the Diono.
As long as it is t so massive as to make the front passenger seat useless I am pretty open minded.
My advice was buy shitty graco from Walmart. Get the shitty graco stroller and the shitty graco bases and you are set.
My wife is 5’3” and fits in the front in our rdx with the angle adjuster. Unless your wife is tall, she’ll be ok in an x5.
Rear facing Diono and front facing ain't the same fuckin sport.
Don't ever under any circumstances let your child (daughter) near a barn nor horse.....If you do kiss your extra money goodbye