Nope, Buster is actually spot on in this case. Kids are amazing, but goodbye to who you could have been. Social life being probably the least important metric in that regard.Quote:
Originally Posted by 89coupe
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Nope, Buster is actually spot on in this case. Kids are amazing, but goodbye to who you could have been. Social life being probably the least important metric in that regard.Quote:
Originally Posted by 89coupe
We will be the 6th baby in our “friend group” in 2023, though second for some. Hoping that will help socialize a bit.. maybe I’m dreaming.
If you make the effort to socialize you will. If you don’t, you will never see these people again.Quote:
Originally Posted by lasimmon
NonsenseQuote:
Originally Posted by Misterman
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Correct, it’s a choice. A lot choose not to, so lame.Quote:
Originally Posted by killramos
Totally agree it's about choices and priorities, to an extent.
Got my ass kicked at hockey today by 1 kid this afternoon, and got my laptime beaten by 1/2 sec go karting at speeders by the other. Then all 3 bullied me into a Ruth’s Chris steak dinner. This shit ain’t worth it.
See!!!
Fatherhood leads to corn-fed beef, nonsense...
If kids aren't altering your priorities you're doing it wrong. Or you have only had one small kid at a time and a house with 1.5 careers rather than two full careers.Quote:
Originally Posted by 89coupe
Be better.Quote:
Originally Posted by rage2
Give them melatonin before any competitive activity. Expert your alpha ways.
1 kid at a time would be so easy lol! My day starts at 5:00am with my son (18.48 mo), then my daughter gets up around 6:30 (45.6 months old). Then it's insanity until nap time when I get maybe an hour to stuff food in my face and clean up a bit of the mess before round 2 starts. Then it's insanity again until 7:00pm when bed time routine starts. Clean up and lunches isn't done until 8:30 and even then it's half assed. That brief period between 8:30 and 9:45 is the free time, which hopefully doesn't involve any projects that come up. Hopefully I can be asleep by 10:30 and it's a rare night when I'm not woken up by one of the kids before it all starts again then next morning at 5:00.
With 1 little kid, it's not a hardship doing 1-1 so the other parent can get something done, but dumping the other parent into a 2-1 situation is rough. The best thing for us is to get out of the house and do something. That cuts the grind down quite a bit. The other option is to just check out and plop your kids in front of the TV, but we're not there yet.
Certain people will always find an excuse.Quote:
Originally Posted by Buster
My kid can beat up your kid.
You don’t think I tried?Quote:
Originally Posted by vengie
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Maybe I’m just getting old.
0.5 seems generousQuote:
Originally Posted by Buster
Get a nanny if you can, or try to source some outside help on a regular basis. My girls are young (2 and 5) and there's obviously daily challenges to get them organized and behaving appropriately etc but I find the endless daily house/life chores layered on top to be absolutely soul sucking. This way, there's just more bandwidth available to have fun with them rather then slowly descending into a relentless state of frustration tending to their every single, never ending, backbreaking need. I realize that to have a nanny is a privileged position, but our quality of life has improved so dramatically, that I would advocate for this type of solution to any family if it was a feasible option.
If anyone in your neighborhood has a nanny, see if you can hire them for 1 day per week of laundry and chores to free up your own time. Lots cheaper than full time, but makes a huge difference.
Immigrant type nanny highly preferred for the chores aspect.
We had white canandian nannies, and well, that's a whole different deal.
I think I might be the only twin dad in this thread?
The wife defo wouldn't be able to have a 0.5 career with the 3 under 3, but if it was just the toddler, it would be a cinch :)
How many kids did you have with that nanny?Quote:
Originally Posted by ExtraSlow
The immigrant type?Quote:
Originally Posted by suntan
No you make the nanny have abortions.