Originally Posted by
speedog
First post here and am quite amused by this thread. Soon to be 48, slightly younger wife (5.5 years) and married 19 years. 3 kids (boys 17 and 15, girl 10). Worked for a large international corporation for 26.5 years before resigning and now own our own business.
Is there a right age to get married, have kids, get a house? No. Ya do what feels right to you. Make sure the own you settle down with is the right one - don't go on for years basically living as two singles together. Have seen too many do this and then get separated/divorced when the kids are 7-11 years old. Know your mate well - be each other's soul mates.
Owning house - do it if that's what you want. Know many that have rented all their lives - never had to deal with the major maintenance headaches. Some were able to invest and come out ahead as compared to owning but most just pissed away any extra monies they had. Equity, though, is a wonderful thing - allowed us to be our own bankers when we bought our business.
Kids - lotsa fun, but there is no right age that I will say you should have them. Know ppl who had them in the teens or early 20's, know ppl who had them in their 50's. Many plusses and minuses for any age with respect to having kids. Having them early can crimp what you could have done when you were young, quite fit and most likely quite a bit more fearless. Having them in your 30's will ensure that you may not be physically or mentally welll enough to keep up to them in your 50's. Having them in your 40's & 50's - crazy in my mind.
Do what feels right for you, but don't be so critical of what others are doing. Certainly if you leave finding that soul mate until you're in your late 30' - 40's will ensure a good variety of used goods to peruse along with the baggage that often comes with those used goods.
Me - married at 28, first house at 29, first kid at 30, last kid at 37, 26.5 year career followed by a new career now in our own business. Had some fun cars and motorbikes when I was single (got ones that are fun to me now too), did lots of crazy physical stuff when I was in my early 20's and am enjoying being a kid with my kids now. Do know that my body now couldn't take what I did to it in my 20's - either mentally or physically and I've never smoked, entertained drugs or alcohol to any great lengths. Just a fact of life - aging slows ya down, even got the progressive glasses a couple of years ago and that what great. Everything has felt right all along the way and can't be critical of what others have done in their life and at what stages.
Do what's right for you and be happy for those that are doing what they feel is right for them.