I am currently feeling guilty as sin. I know I did the right thing, but I feel like I handled this all wrong.
A very good friend of mine has had a pretty shitty life lately. for the past 4 years now, his entire life has been sitting in his parent's basement, playing video games and drinking beer. Up until 4 years ago, he had a job, was happy, had a life, he was even one of the groomsmen at my wedding.
now, he has no job, lives off his parents, he is 34, lives in his parents basement, drinks beer, plays video games and surfs the web and has become a pathological liar, and a horrible liar at that. he has even admitted that my wife and I are the only friends he still has contact with.
He, myself and my wife have been talking about this for awhile now. we were planning on moving him into our house, working with him to find a job for him, and get him some sort of social life again. he has not had a girlfriend in like 6 years!
every time we have tried to work any kind of plan with him, he comes up with some excuse as to why not. The last one, he had gotten a job at a camp up by fort mac and was leaving sunday. Well, i called his mother looking to see if they had a contact number, but his mother then sounded confused and said, he is right here.....
so we had a sort of intervention of sorts. We travelled out there and confronted him. he was 11 beers into a 15 pack. After having it out with him, we basically laid it out on the line, with his mother there as well. At the end of it all, my wife and I laid it out on the line, that if he didn't accept our help, or make the progress on his own, that our friendship was over. to that he said simply "good-bye" our friendship of 15 years plus went poof that fast.
As we were going to leave, my wife brought our daughter down to say good-bye, and she saw him with a rifle across his lap. At that point, we called in the RCMP and they came and talked with him, and ended up taking him to the hospital.
now the real shitty part is, that there were 4 rifles in the house, and none of them were registered. they were all broken down, firing pins and bolts removed and scattered through-out the house. The RCMP have now seized the guns. All of the guns belong to his step father, who is a landed immigrant.
Now i know his dad is going to be pissed, and i know his mom is mad at us for calling the cops. would he have killed himself? i doubt it, but I was not going to take that chance.
I feel like a complete ass here, and I keep running this through my mind trying to find a different way to have handled this.
Did I do the right thing? could I have done it differently?