I had a conversation with a friend the other day and she thinks her husband should appreciate her more, solely for the fact that she's working. This is in comparison to two other couples she's aware of where the wives aren't working. These stay at home wives (no kids yet) don't cook or clean and stay home all day doing....I'm not sure what they do.
Her main argument is this:
"Those stay at home wives stay at home all day and their husband's treat them just as nice, if not nicer, than my husband treats me. I think I deserve some appreciation just because I'm not like one those girls and am actually busting my ass off in the workforce. I've talked with my other (asian) working girlfriends and they all agree our significant others should appreciate us more for the fact that we're working"
My response:
"I don't think you deserve any extra appreciation just for the fact that you're working. A woman with a job these days is pretty much standard and one of the reasons your husband married you is because you are the type that works. In the same way you wouldn't think it's fair if he brought home a man from the homeless shelter and told you how much you should appreciate him because he's not like this homeless man, you recieving extra appreciation just because you work isn't justified."
Her response:
"A working husband is a set standard though, but a working wife isn't. Therefore, your husband-bum analogy doesn't hold up, but mine still does. A woman deserves credit for working."
She thinks our differing views is based on the fact that I was raised in a western society and she was raised primarily in an asian culture. She thinks western husbands don't place any extra value on their wives working, but asian societies do.
To the asians on here, what's your opinion on this? Anyone else from any other culture, please chime in with your viewpoints as I'm curious to see different culture's opinions on this matter.
Do working wives deserve extra credit simply for the fact that they're working, when compared to stay at home wives? This is relating strictly to stay-at-home WIVES and not MOMs. As in newlyweds - no kids yet.