wife's last name when marrying and then kids last names

[Tik-Tok]

I wouldn't have cared if my wife kept her maiden name. Any children should be under husbands name though.

[Disoblige]

Wife and kids use husbands last name. End of story.

Marriage is about unity, the last name should be the same. Call me old-fashioned but that's how I believe it should be.

Now, I'm not TOO opposed to the hyphenated last name, but most of the time that hyphenated last name just sounds bad and/or it's like 20 letters long. If it sounds good, then maybe.

[Gainsbarre]

Originally posted by benyl


Fixed.

Voted! Although the option I chose is kinda trailing in the poll...

Not a fan of hyphenated names, can become quite a mouthful and not necessary imo...

Another example of a name that should not have gone hyphenated. I came across this lady's name for the first time in 2004 (she co-wrote a book chapter we were using at school) and as soon as I saw the name I thought "what a horrible surname to affix to the end of yours!"

http://integritybridges.com/donna-kennedy-glans/

[Zewind]

Originally posted by Disoblige
Wife and kids use husbands last name. End of story.

Marriage is about unity, the last name should be the same. Call me old-fashioned but that's how I believe it should be.

Now, I'm not TOO opposed to the hyphenated last name, but most of the time that hyphenated last name just sounds bad and/or it's like 20 letters long. If it sounds good, then maybe.

This.

[BokCh0y]

Broad and my boys took my lastname. No choice on that matter.

[Melinda]

I assumed my husband's name. Legally I can use either his last name or my maiden name on any official document but I go by his last name for pretty much everything but my costco membership (too lazy to fix it). Our kids both have his name as well.

[shakalaka]

I am old school...so wife and kids take my name.

[Penis McNickels]

I didn't care what the wife did. She ended up keeping her own last name, as is the tradition in her culture. I offered (or rather bluffed) to let the kids have her last name since there are only girls in her family (four boys in my family) but she preferred (I knew I would win that bluff) that the kids took my last name, so they did.

I do know a family where the wife kept her own last name and the kids took the wife's last name as well (again wife's family was all girls) and he ran into a lot of shit trying to cross the border with just him and the kids.

[HiTempguy1]

Originally posted by Zewind


This.

+2

The only, ONLY way I could see it happening was if the chick was a professional, and not only a professional, but had some serious weight behind her name.

Other than that, no excuse or reason. For myself, its one of those issues that couldn't be argued or worked around. You don't get to pick and choose what you get out of a marriage IMO

[derpderp]

Hyphenated names are poorly thought out for one reason. What happens when your children with a hyphenated last name gets married and has children?

So if I got married and my kid was Alexander-Shwartz, then my kid gets older and married and has my grandchildren would they become say Alexander-Shwartz-Johnson? I can see it now: 100's of years from now Alexander-Shwartz-Johnson-Chan-O'Brien-Devins-Mohamad

Wife can keep her name if she wants but this is a tradition of thousands of years, just leave it be.

[01RedDX]

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[Idiot Stick]

Did not read thread.

For the hyphenated names, just imagine down the road, a couple generations. You will have two people with hyphenated names marry. So you will have, example

Wang-Holder and Kuntz-Dick getting married.

Their last name is now Wang-Holder-Kuntz-Dick

Then the next generation gets married

Wang-Holder-Kuntz-Dick-Only-In-Amer-Ica

Etc etc.

Would have to have multiple business cards just for the last name in the future.

I say, take the mans name. Its how its always been done, its how it should continue to be done.

Edit; Derpderp's post had the same idea as mine. Fffuuu

[Tram Common]

I don't care who I marry, they'll be taking my eastern block name whether they like it or not... I find the whole hyphenated thing a complete joke.

[desi112]

Husbands name all around.

Even though i'm married and she has'nt changed her name yet, mostly due to my lazy ass.

[winson2001]

wife kept her name, we didn't even discussed about it, cuz i dont really care, n i'm sure she dont care neither, n for kids name .... I always thought my last name was spelled wrong, so i might correct it... still thinking.... my kids due in mid july so i still have time to think

[clem24]

Agreed with Idiot Stick re. hyphenated last name. Too many issues down the road.

On the topic of wife keeping maiden name, I didn't have a problem with this either, and so was the case for the first few years that we were married.. But.. A few months before she gave birth to our first kid, she changed her last name to mine. Why? Too many potential hassles with mom having a different last name than the kid. Not even at my urging either cause I still didn't care, but she did because she figured it might be a pain in the ass for herself later.

My 2 cents.

[leftwing]

Im not a fan of hyphenated names so thats not an option, not to mention my last name is kinda long so a hyphenated name would be dumb.
I don't care what the wife does and I really don't care what the kids get either. But I think it is kind of exclusive for one partner to have one name while their spouse and kids share a different name.
Overall I'm pretty indifferent on the issue, probably because I don't plan on thinking about marriage or kids for a longggg time.

[Thaco]

my wife and kids too my last name, but really is depends on the situation, like a friend of mine has a well established photography company,. which is her name, you cant really expect her to change everything when she gets marries, she'd lose the reputation and everything she's worked so hard for... it really depends on the situations...

[R-Audi]

If Wife is old fashion thinking enough that the Husband bucks and and pays for a ring and proposes, she is old fashion enough to take the name. None of this have the best of both worlds feminist BS.

[Myrrinda]

For me, I'd probably keep my last name until I had kids, and then I'd change it. It's such a pain in the ass to to change your name, but I want the same name as my kids, and my kids would take the last name of their father, so I would eventually end up with my husband's last name. I didn't vote because I don't think there is a 'correct answer'.