wife's last name when marrying and then kids last names

[polarice]

Originally posted by wbaxter
The female needs to change her last name. The woman is the weaker sex and should have zero say in any real matters (except food, household colors, and cleaning,) Yeah I went there, go wank off in front of your computer.

No big deal. Just make sure all you tough guys man up and be the sole income earner too.

Seriously though, I feel that all the men saying the women need to take their last name are selectively traditionalist and using the last name bearing as a fleeting way to conserve what ever power they think they're losing as women gain equality.


That said, I'm a homo and I would take my gf's name because her family name is well known and I have two brothers to take carry on the family name. Although, it would make my initials a venerial disease. Maybe i'll rethink that.

[Feruk]

Originally posted by polarice

Seriously though, I feel that all the men saying the women need to take their last name are selectively traditionalist and using the last name bearing as a fleeting way to conserve what ever power they think they're losing as women gain equality.

The whole idea of marriage is traditionalist and, in a way, a method of conserving manly power. Notice how the father 'gives away' the bride to the husband? If you're gonna participate in a traditional ceremony like that, then do it traditionally! Otherwise just stay common law...

I don't think I'd marry the lady if she didn't wanna take my last name; common law would work good for me. I do kinda feel bad for the gal I marry taking on a long arse, impossible to pronounce, Polak name like mine though.

[Squishy]

My mom kept her name and I took my dads. I don't think we've had any issues, but that being said, my dad died in 2001, so I'm the youngest one I think to carry my dads families name without a hyphen. Being a girl.... Not sure if I would keep my name or not. It's something I'd really have to think through when the time comes.

[civiclvr]

I don't mind so much if my wife were to take my name or not.. but please, lets not hyphenate the kids names.. what happens when they grow up and a Mr. A-B marries a Ms. C-D?
Are their kids now Johnny A-B-C-D? it gets out of hand.

I voted wife and kids gets fathers name. I don't care if it's male oppressing women or not, it just seems right. And yes I am aware that it's because that's the way I grew up. In the end, it doesn't matter whose name you use. It just signifies the union. Strangers do not know whose name it was. What they assume is their issue.

[D'z Nutz]

For all you guys who say that the woman has to take your name because it's "tradition", how do you feel about no sex until after marriage?

Yeah, I didn't think so.

[BerserkerCatSplat]

Originally posted by civiclvr
I don't mind so much if my wife were to take my name or not.. but please, lets not hyphenate the kids names.. what happens when they grow up and a Mr. A-B marries a Ms. C-D?
Are their kids now Johnny A-B-C-D? it gets out of hand.

Try reading the thread. Last names in Canada are only allowed to have a single hyphen, so your slippery-slope scenario is not only silly, but impossible.

[Tik-Tok]

Originally posted by D'z Nutz
For all you guys who say that the woman has to take your name because it's "tradition", how do you feel about no sex until after marriage?

Yeah, I didn't think so.

And for all those saying it's a show of unity... how do you feel about taking HER last name?

[desi112]

Originally posted by D'z Nutz
For all you guys who say that the woman has to take your name because it's "tradition", how do you feel about no sex until after marriage?

Yeah, I didn't think so.

I was down with that and we were together for 5+ years.

[gts_gurl]

Originally posted by Tik-Tok


And for all those saying it's a show of unity... how do you feel about taking HER last name?

My BF has mentioned this before in our talks about marriage... He'd rather take/assume my name... To each their own I guess.

[ExtraSlow]

My wife and I talked about me taking her name. In the end, she preferred to take mine.

[Freeskier]

I'm for the first option, but in some cases it can be a different matter. When my cousin got married, he took his wife's name. There are 4 girls in her family and 2 boys in his, so there was no one to carry on her family's last name, whereas his brother will keep their name. just a situation where the man took the woman's name and so will their kids.

[max_boost]

Wife keeps her last name.
Kids take the dad's last name.

Works well and no complications. But I'm neither married or have kids so I guess my input doesn't really matter haha

[civiclvr]

Originally posted by BerserkerCatSplat


Try reading the thread. Last names in Canada are only allowed to have a single hyphen, so your slippery-slope scenario is not only silly, but impossible.

my bad
I didn't read the last few posts on the third page. Didn't realise there were rules in Canada for this very instance. Just found myself agreeing with other posters.

[R!zz0]

Wife wanted my Son to have her last name. I asked her who made her pregnant me or her Dad. I think i answered her question because he has my last name.

[Mar]

Depends on if the kid's a bastard child or not. My brother had a kid, gave it his girlfriend's last name, and then he found out he had to adopt his own child because there's some legality where his daughter didn't have his last name. So he had to do all the adoption paperwork, then they got married and all the names were the same.

So my neice was born with a different last name than she has now.

[Ed the SOHC]

A coworker and his wife decide to mash up their last name and created completely new last names. That's a relatively new idea rather than hyphenating it. Wang-Holder could have been Wolder or Holdang.