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    Default My girlfriend is trying to contact her grandmother

    My girlfriend is trying to get in touch with her mom's mom so I'm wondering what my options are besides hiring someone for it. She has checked with her relatives and there's some sort of story going on there because her one uncle knows all the details but keeps telling her to forget about it, he won't give up anything. Her mom doesn't know and her other relatives don't know much.

    So far we know the woman's name, we know her ex-husband (died in 2008) and we know her phone number. We did a reverse lookup on her phone number and it came up registered to her dead husband with an address in Edmonton which is promising because Edmonton is where the funeral was for her husband, we know she's there. We had a friend go by there yesterday, buzzed the apartment number and an Asian woman answered, not her. She should be white.

    My girlfriend tried calling the number multiple times and there's no voicemail message, just the standard recording saying we've reached the number and can leave a message. She has left messages with no response, nobody has ever answered the phone.

    She has also called the funeral home which did the service for the husband and the woman that my girlfriend talked to was very helpful. The funeral home couldn't give out any information but did confirm there is an active address for the woman and the woman is supposed to still be living. The funeral home also sent a letter to the address through the mail with a small explanation to get in touch but heard nothing from it.

    I have no idea what else to do, we signed up on ancestry.ca and traced it all the way back but that only gives information for dead relatives, it doesn't release anything for living relatives. Any other suggestions? The woman would have to be in her 90s by now, my girlfriend is 42.
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    Kinda weird that your gf's own mother doesn't know much about her own mother.. WTF?

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    Shit like this is actually weirdly common. I know of two other similar cases. If you are serious about this, you may have to go to that town and start asking around. Only problem is, since this lady is in her 90's, she may be either a) not all there (dementia, Alzheimers etc) or b) too set in her ways to talk to your GF.
    This quest has a low probability of brining anything positive.
    Let's all work on positivity this week.

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    Default Re: My girlfriend is trying to contact her grandmother

    Originally posted by Mar
    only gives information for dead relatives, it doesn't release anything for living relatives.
    Originally posted by Mar
    oThe woman would have to be in her 90s by now
    I'd say her info will be popping up on ancestry.ca any day now.

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    Default Re: My girlfriend is trying to contact her grandmother

    Originally posted by Mar
    She should be white.
    Sounds like your girlfriend doesn't know her that well.

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    Default Re: Re: My girlfriend is trying to contact her grandmother

    Originally posted by The_Rural_Juror


    Sounds like your girlfriend doesn't know her that well.
    She is white. I'm saying the woman whom answered was Asian but if it were the correct woman then she should be white.....not Asian.
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    or else what? you'll turn on the caps lock?
    you do realize this is the internet right? lol
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    mar, you are good guy at heart
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    then you will be happy if you fine place in live
    Originally posted by blitz
    Jesus man, I know you like Transformers, but you need to get out more. No one should get this upset over a movie based on children's toys.

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    Default Re: Re: Re: My girlfriend is trying to contact her grandmother

    Originally posted by Mar


    She is white. I'm saying the woman whom answered was Asian but if it were the correct woman then she should be white.....not Asian.
    Maybe her grandma is actually Asian.... mindfuck

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    Mindfuck. Grandma actually Asian. Girlfriend actually boyfriend.
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    Beyond, bunch of creme puffs on this board.
    Everything I say is satire.

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    Originally posted by The_Rural_Juror
    Mindfuck. Grandma actually Asian. Girlfriend actually boyfriend.

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    This should be a slam dunk, the elderly are not a terribly mobile lot as a rule. Odds are she has passed away and the funeral home knows nothing different. It's not like we need to keep a funeral home updated about our pulse. Unless of course the grandmother has her funeral arrangements made with the funeral home, they'd know more obviously.

    Check the cemetery along side the husband. Is she there?

    Other than being in the ground, odds are she is in a hospital, seniors home, hospice. Can't be more than a few dozen in Edmonton. Call each and ask if the grandmother is there. When you call, act like you expect her to be at each number. Ask for the grandmother, if they say there is no one by that name, tell them you must have the wrong seniors home. Ask if there is a central resource you can call to get the grandmothers location. Stuff like this is private, you might find a leak or two though.

    My wife's grandmother is 94, she lives on her own in a small town, fairly mobile (can get around) and rather healthy. There are a few family members who stop by daily but really the old girl is happy to be independent and plants a garden every year. So there is some hope for your Edmonton grandmother case.

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    I can't remember if we wait till page 2 or not before we request pics of said girlfriend.
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    Missing person ad in the newspaper.

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    Originally posted by Maxt
    I can't remember if we wait till page 2 or not before we request pics of said girlfriend.
    It's Mar. What kind of picture are you expecting?

    Some things are better left unknown

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    After all the unanswered messages, and letter from the funeral home....have you considered the fact that this grandmother may NOT want to be contacted?
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    Pretty tough crowd here....even for us.
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    Once again another useless post by JRSCOOLDUDE.
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    Originally posted by rx7boi


    It's Mar. What kind of picture are you expecting?

    Some things are better left unknown
    I think a lot of people here would be extremely surprised.

    Originally posted by freshprince1
    After all the unanswered messages, and letter from the funeral home....have you considered the fact that this grandmother may NOT want to be contacted?
    We have but it'd be better to at least meet her once before she died, even if she didn't want to. Better than not having the opportunity.

    Originally posted by JRSC00LUDE
    Pretty tough crowd here....even for us.
    This is tame but there's a reason I only post a couple of times a year now.
    Originally posted by Go4Long
    or else what? you'll turn on the caps lock?
    you do realize this is the internet right? lol
    Originally posted by rob the knob
    mar, you are good guy at heart
    you must realize your limitations
    then you will be happy if you fine place in live
    Originally posted by blitz
    Jesus man, I know you like Transformers, but you need to get out more. No one should get this upset over a movie based on children's toys.

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    Best of luck to her, if she is prepared for the outcome regardless of what it is then hopefully she finds it. Some people don't realize how important things like that can become to a person when you don't really know your family but want to.
    Originally posted by SJW
    Once again another useless post by JRSCOOLDUDE.
    Originally posted by snowcat
    Don't let the e-thugs and faggots get to you when they quote your posts and write stupid shit.

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    Who likes 6 year updates? What a wild ride.

    A few years ago my girlfriend got the idea to check out the online gravestone photos you can do, most cemeteries have them. She looked up the husband's grave site and it had the wife (her grandmother) there as well but no death date. That's weird, we figured she was dead after all of this. So she had a friend go by the grave site and take a more recent photo and sure enough, no death date for this woman.

    My girlfriend called the cemetery the next day and asked about it, the old guy working there said, "Oh, yes, I remember her, lovely woman. I have her information in the back, want me to tell her to call you?" Wait, what? You remember this random person I barely described to you? And she's alive? YES!

    That was the last she heard about it so we just assumed he had passed on her information and my girlfriend's grandmother just didn't want to talk to her. Bummer.

    Fast forward to last week, an Edmonton friend calls my girlfriend and tells her there's a local radio station asking people to send in 103 birthday cards for this woman that's turning 103. They said the name and.........it's her! She's alive, she's turning 103 and there is an address listed on the birthday card advertisement from the radio station. We got all the details today so I'm going to contact the station in the morning and my girlfriend is going to write a card explaining the whole situation.

    I have no idea what will happen but that's cool.
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    Originally posted by rob the knob
    mar, you are good guy at heart
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    then you will be happy if you fine place in live
    Originally posted by blitz
    Jesus man, I know you like Transformers, but you need to get out more. No one should get this upset over a movie based on children's toys.

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    rep'ed for someone actually following up on a thread around here

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    Classic Mar thread.
    Lots of details.
    Lots of advice.
    Massive duration of time for an outcome.

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