Woman Blows $7K on Matchmaking Service, Only Match was Toothless, Unemployed Man...

[FraserB]

Originally posted by rx7boi


Why should someone feel bad though? Everyone has a list of things they want in a propsective partner with varying priorities.

Her expectations were what? She didn't want to financially support someone, she wanted someone attractive (relatively), someone employed, someone close to her age.

Instead, she got someone who lives in a camper, has no job, presumably looks homeless, and chews on plastic utensils during social interactions. Yet, you still imply that she's somehow obligated to jump on the grenade and take one for the team.

Not only that, you're choosing to focus on the fact that she had an opinion on his physical appearance and as such she is superficial.

Do you guys even hear yourself? Haha

PS: Post of the month goes to btimbit

So when they provided her with his picture and profile, she didn't reject him as a match then? Especially considering that she knew she was locked into her contract as soon as she accepted a date.

[jwslam]

Originally posted by Sugarphreak
Anybody feel bad for the guy who got matched up with a superficial woman that thought he was so ugly that she complained about him to the media?

Poor guy was on hard times and probably was pretty excited to maybe meet somebody who would see him for him

Originally posted by rx7boi
Why should someone feel bad though? Everyone has a list of things they want in a propsective partner with varying priorities.

Her expectations were what? She didn't want to financially support someone, she wanted someone attractive (relatively), someone employed, someone close to her age.

Instead, she got someone who lives in a camper, has no job, presumably looks homeless, and chews on plastic utensils during social interactions. Yet, you still imply that she's somehow obligated to jump on the grenade and take one for the team.

Not only that, you're choosing to focus on the fact that she had an opinion on his physical appearance and as such she is superficial.

Do you guys even hear yourself? Haha

PS: Post of the month goes to btimbit

Stolen from CalgaryPuck /flamesuiton

The guy lived in a camper, so he's not homeless. And he didn't have all his teeth? Also the article height shames him. Maybe he's a super nice guy, and just an eccentric outdoorsman.

Ok. Let's do this, and turn it around. If a man approached CBC about this service, and complained even remotely about the appearance or social status of a woman he was set up with? Oh lord. He'd be publicly shamed into the Stone Age. Go Fund ME's and makeovers would be pouring in. Oprah would have the slow piano music darkened studio intro for her.

The double standard on display with this report is kinda sickening. I'm not saying the matchmaking service is in the clear. But what do you expect when your basically treating dating like yanking on a slot machine handle in a seedy casino.

[btimbit]

Originally posted by rx7boi


Why should someone feel bad though? Everyone has a list of things they want in a propsective partner with varying priorities.

Her expectations were what? She didn't want to financially support someone, she wanted someone attractive (relatively), someone employed, someone close to her age.

Instead, she got someone who lives in a camper, has no job, presumably looks homeless, and chews on plastic utensils during social interactions. Yet, you still imply that she's somehow obligated to jump on the grenade and take one for the team.

Not only that, you're choosing to focus on the fact that she had an opinion on his physical appearance and as such she is superficial.

Do you guys even hear yourself? Haha

PS: Post of the month goes to btimbit

Oh I 100% get her complaint, I'm just too shallow and privileged to not question the fact that she's a dummy for being so desperate that she spend over 7k.

But hey, as a slightly overweight unemployed jackass who is slowly losing his hair, this story offends me too!

[rx7boi]

Originally posted by btimbit


Oh I 100% get her complaint, I'm just too shallow and privileged to not question the fact that she's a dummy for being so desperate that she spend over 7k.

But hey, as a slightly overweight unemployed jackass who is slowly losing his hair, this story offends me too!

Not even in the same league as the guy's description. Without pics it's hard to say if she's exaggerating. Maybe he's dreamy like no one ever thought

Alot of people are using double standards as the primary argument while refusing to acknowledge that people are entitled to basic preferences.

This woman didn't get matched with someone that fell short of her expectations. She got matched with someone that was basically the exact opposite of what she asked for.

#escortbaitandswitchtactics

[Sugarphreak]

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[sexualbanana]

Originally posted by FraserB


So when they provided her with his picture and profile, she didn't reject him as a match then?

There's no mention that hey did show her a picture. The matchmaking service that this company was supposed to provide is entirely different from simple online dating, as the client has a personal point of contact whom, after getting to know you, is supposedly an expert in setting the client up.

The hook, and this would probably be the point of contention for the plaintiff, is that the company acted in bad faith by setting her up with her first referral who did not meet the criteria that she had laid out. That, in combination with the clause in the contract stating the fee is non-refundable after the first referral, means that the company had no intention of ever trying to provide her with the service they had promised.

[btimbit]

Originally posted by rx7boi


Not even in the same league as the guy's description. Without pics it's hard to say if she's exaggerating. Maybe he's dreamy like no one ever thought

Alot of people are using double standards as the primary argument while refusing to acknowledge that people are entitled to basic preferences.

This woman didn't get matched with someone that fell short of her expectations. She got matched with someone that was basically the exact opposite of what she asked for.

#escortbaitandswitchtactics

Meh, that double standard will always be there, doesn't bug me much.
My only this is that I can only feel so sorry for her if she willing paid that much. Maybe it's victim blaming, but you're kind of a willing participate in your own fuckover at that point. Is she really so desperate that she thought there was no way she'd get ripped off? If so, that's really sad, and to me that's the real story here, not the fact that she got a crappy match

[btimbit]

Wait a minute, if this guy allegedly has no job and lives in a camper, did he have to pay thousands for a match as well? Or is he just in on the scam?

[rx7boi]

That is sad, but only because it's considered socially taboo to pay to be set up with a total stranger. People pay for all kinds of services, whether it's due to a lack of competence, skill, or physical ability.

I doubt any of us here know much about matchmaking services but personally I would have thought that they're more legitimate than a beaner on the Las Vegas strip handing out cards on the smoking hot babes they'll send to your hotel room

Maybe I'm just not savvy to the scammy side of matchmaking services so I sympathize with her story more.

Either way, $7k is a huge chunk of change to lose even if it's not to a nigerian prince.

[btimbit]

Paying to be set up like that, sure no problem. The sad part is that she allowed herself to be taken for that much when someone in a more reasonable state of mind would likely have thought that's way, way too much for such a service.

Loneliness and desire to be with someone can be a very powerful emotion, sucks that there's people to take advantage of it

[sexualbanana]

Originally posted by btimbit


Meh, that double standard will always be there, doesn't bug me much.
My only this is that I can only feel so sorry for her if she willing paid that much. Maybe it's victim blaming, but you're kind of a willing participate in your own fuckover at that point. Is she really so desperate that she thought there was no way she'd get ripped off? If so, that's really sad, and to me that's the real story here, not the fact that she got a crappy match

Are you only victim blaming because of the nature of the service? Otherwise I don't see how she could have contributed to her own fuckover.

Say I go to an expensive restaurant and order a $300 steak of Kobe beef, and what I get is a quarter-pounder patty. You'd complain right? The problem is, the restaurant policy states that no refunds are available once the meal has been plated.

As rx7boi said, it's not that the service simply failed to meet her criteria, it's that the date they set her up with was nowhere near the criteria that she stated.

[FraserB]

Originally posted by sexualbanana


Are you only victim blaming because of the nature of the service? Otherwise I don't see how she could have contributed to her own fuckover.

Say I go to an expensive restaurant and order a $300 steak of Kobe beef, and what I get is a quarter-pounder patty. You'd complain right? The problem is, the restaurant policy states that no refunds are available once the meal has been plated.

As rx7boi said, it's not that the service simply failed to meet her criteria, it's that the date they set her up with was nowhere near the criteria that she stated.

I find it very, very hard to believe that she agreed to the meeting without seeing a picture or profile of the match before hand.

It's like your restaurant example, but before they serve you the quarter pounder, they showed you a picture and a description.

[Xtrema]

I thought women get all the dicks on Tinder, why pay $7K? I'm sure even she will get a few right swipes in Edmonton.

[Kloubek]

Originally posted by Sugarphreak
Anybody feel bad for the guy who got matched up with a superficial woman that thought he was so ugly that she complained about him to the media?

I was thinking the same thing. Who's to say that just because he was missing teeth and unemployed that he wasn't a great guy?

I was also wondering who is so unable to get a mate themselves that they pay the price of a decent used car to find someone? She reeks of issues even without going to the media to shame this guy.

[sexualbanana]

Originally posted by FraserB


I find it very, very hard to believe that she agreed to the meeting without seeing a picture or profile of the match before hand.

It's like your restaurant example, but before they serve you the quarter pounder, they showed you a picture and a description.

But why would the matchmaker suggest that person in the first place knowing that he doesn't match any of her criteria?

Admittedly, that's where the hole in my QP analogy exists. But the fact remains: either the matchmaker did a really good job selling her on this guy, or the matchmaker had no real intention of fulfilling their end of the contract.

[GingeRRRBeef]

Originally posted by sexualbanana


But why would the matchmaker suggest that person in the first place knowing that he doesn't match any of her criteria?

Admittedly, that's where the hole in my QP analogy exists. But the fact remains: either the matchmaker did a really good job selling her on this guy, or the matchmaker had no real intention of fulfilling their end of the contract.

I would have had dinner with her for much much less than 7k

[rx7boi]

Originally posted by Kloubek


I was thinking the same thing. Who's to say that just because he was missing teeth and unemployed that he wasn't a great guy?

I was also wondering who is so unable to get a mate themselves that they pay the price of a decent used car to find someone? She reeks of issues even without going to the media to shame this guy.

Face it, the dating scene is what it is. If you're homeless, jobless, and have poor etiqutte then you're less prospective than the guy who does have all 3. There's nothing hard to comprehend about that.

Really also wondering how many dudes in this thread subscribe to the notion of being friendzoned simply because someone doesn't want to fuck them. But you're such a great guy!

Originally posted by FraserB


I find it very, very hard to believe that she agreed to the meeting without seeing a picture or profile of the match before hand.

It's like your restaurant example, but before they serve you the quarter pounder, they showed you a picture and a description.

You haven't considered that some matchmaking services could potentially set up blind dates with the understanding that they'll match you based on criteria you set out.

You know as well as we do that not all menus provide pictures. Descriptions, yes. If you ordered a bacon jalapeno cheeseburger that came with no bacon and no jalapeno, you'd call the server over.

Sorry, you can't. It's already plated. It's your fault if you don't just give the burger a chance

The article does not indicate that they get a complete James Bond pre-mission briefing for each match, but rather that there is high sales pressure to get you to commit to a specific membership package where they promise her certain amount of referrals.

If she didn't need to provide any criteria, she could have just done it all herself and bypassed the service altogether by looking at pictures and messaging.

[btimbit]

Originally posted by sexualbanana


Are you only victim blaming because of the nature of the service? Otherwise I don't see how she could have contributed to her own fuckover.

Say I go to an expensive restaurant and order a $300 steak of Kobe beef, and what I get is a quarter-pounder patty. You'd complain right? The problem is, the restaurant policy states that no refunds are available once the meal has been plated.

As rx7boi said, it's not that the service simply failed to meet her criteria, it's that the date they set her up with was nowhere near the criteria that she stated.

Sure, but in your expensive restaurant what you thought you were getting is worth what you paid. In this scenario the girl still got ripped off and scammed, but even if she got exactly what she wanted, still paid $7000 for it. That's fucked

[ZenOps]

By that analogy though, maybe she was willing to pay $7,000 to try caviar for the first time - only to realize caviar wasn't what she wanted. Or a year long gym membership that was used twice.

From a law standpoint, if she signed anything stating no refunds, and then paid - She isn't getting anything back.

[sexualbanana]

Originally posted by ZenOps
By that analogy though, maybe she was willing to pay $7,000 to try caviar for the first time - only to realize caviar wasn't what she wanted. Or a year long gym membership that was used twice.

From a law standpoint, if she signed anything stating no refunds, and then paid - She isn't getting anything back.

From a law standpoint, the service provider is also expected to fulfill their end of the contract. Whether it's in the contract or not, the basic principle of the business advertised is to set the customer up with someone who matches their criteria.

Going back to food analogies (I'm clearly hungry)...
As a customer can't sue KFC for not having any burgers, a KFC shouldn't be serving a burrito when the customer ordered a a 3pc with coleslaw, then claim no refund because the burrito has already been wrapped.