Texting an Ex

[firebane]

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I knew I wasn't crazy to think/feel that way. She is an amazing girl and I have no doubt that she has no intentions/would never cheat physically, but I do feel emotionally cheated and it makes me feel like shit.

I need to sit down and have another serious talk with her about this.

She obviously isn't amazing and doesn't respect you. And the texts from the ex... well to me if she is entertaining them who knows what she says when your not around.

[spikerS]

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project240, agree with you being weirded out by it, definitely deserve to request for her to block the Ex completely.

But on a separate note, how many on you in the Ex's shoes wouldn't try pulling some final desperation moves yourselves?

Not with my Ex, that's for fucking sure!

OP, my last marriage ended with a very similar situation. I was naive and tried to save it and overlook it, but in the end, my ex-wife fucking off with my renter was the best thing that could have happened. I asked her to stop and she refused. Besides not having my youngest daughter with me full time, it was the best thing that ever happened to me. My life stress levels went way down, and I am in a way better place now.

Seriously, if she won't respect you and stop talking to the douche, she isn't amazing. It means you are nothing more than a way to keep a roof over her head while she gets to play the field. GTFO now before it costs you too much. Go out, get shit faced for a few days, and bonk a few chicks half your age, assuming you are over like 35, and move on. No chick is worth that stress brother.

[shakalaka]

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Whoa, easy there chief.

He's looking for validation to make sure that HE isn't the one overreacting - which he clearly isn't. Now that he feels he's in the right, he can sit down and tell his GF what he wants.

If she refuses, then it's over.
If she agrees and complies, things are (hopefully) cool.
If she agrees but then keeps replying secretly, then he's on high-alert and can end it.

Either way, all he's looking for out of us is to agree or disagree with his position. He doesn't need to be roasted for asking for our advice.

I am not roasting him at all. I am answering his question, in that he's not wrong in thinking what he's thinking. Further, I am offering advice as to what he should do in a situation such as this. I am just not sugar coating it for him and am saying exactly what he needs to hear. Sometimes when you're in love it's hard to see the other person's faults and drawbacks and tough love is exactly what is needed.

[Tej.S]

Completely agree with everything that Shak posted. OP, how comfortable would she be if you were in each other's shoes?

[Twin_Cam_Turbo]

Unfortunately I went down this exact road with a girl and it basically ended with her fucking him again and them never ceasing contact.

[adidas]

OP pm me your number, i will pretend to be your ex. Let's see how she likes it.

[J-hop]

Respond with "new phone who dis" and a dick pic (not your own obviously)

[ExtraSlow]

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OP pm me your number, i will pretend to be your ex. Let's see how she likes it.

Op pm me her number. Sounds like she's good to go.

[rage2]

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Op pm me her number. Sounds like she's good to go.

[Kloubek]

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Op pm me her number. Sounds like she's good to go.

Hahaha! Best answer yet.

[sexualbanana]

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When this guy gives relationship advice. lol

Those who can't do, teach.

[mr2mike]

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OP pm me your number, i will pretend to be your ex. Let's see how she likes it.

I want to know how this plan works.

[jwslam]

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OP pm me your number, i will pretend to be your ex. Let's see how she likes it.

Post your number, we'll all text as exes.
When she says something tell her she's being jealous and controlling.

[jaylo]

This post makes me mad (because experience). Stand up for yourself! *sending you some self-esteem and confidence vibes*

[thinmyster]

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I want to know how this plan works.

Lol Who knows they may like it

[Darkane]

OP, you put it on a pedistal. Knock it down immediately.

[max_boost]

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Op pm me her number. Sounds like she's good to go.

this guy is funny.

[LUDELVR]

I’m going to offer an alternate perspective to this situation and give you a glimpse from your girlfriend’s side; however, it is also from a male’s point of view so it might be skewed a wee bit and coming from me, you’ll need to take it for what it is worth.

I dated a girl for about 8 years and we did not end things that amicably at all but we still remained “friends”. We still spoke frequently and would often flirt and participate in extra curricular activities quite frequently because we were both single. I dated numerous girls after and during that time, I was always getting calls/messages from her and the ladies I was with articulated that they did not really appreciate it but I just told them that there was nothing there physically and we were just friends. Honestly, if I had been that hard up, I would have gone off and did what I needed to do but I was satisfied in my current relationships. I seemed like a very sincere guy to the ladies I was with and totally alleviated their concerns by saying that we were just friends. I was not actually into them at all and was just killing time as it seemed. I never did stop receiving messages/calls from my ex and it’s like everyone had pointed out, the attention was great!

Fast forward to my wife now. Same situation had happened where I was continuously getting messages from my ex and it came to the point where my wife did what you suggested and had a talk. We chatted about what everyone had said previously and that if I were truly into the current relationship, I would not be messaging or contacting my ex anymore. To be honest, it did not take much because I wanted to make her happy and prove that she was the one I wanted to be with so there was in fact no need to communicate with my ex anymore and that’s what I did. It made perfect sense. I had no issues with it because my priority was the woman I was with now. It was funny because we even went on a double date with my ex and the guy she was with and that was complete AWKWARDNESS!! I cut all communications and even when she got married and texted me saying that she wanted a divorce from him and that she made a mistake, I still didn’t respond because it was no longer an issue in my life. In the past few years, she’s messaged here and there but she has eventually got the message and every time she has messaged, I show my wife and this mollifies any concerns she has because I’m completely open.

It does not sound like your girlfriend is being completely open or honest with you and from my own experience, she does not sound like she takes this relationship that seriously. If she did want to be with you sincerely, this would not even be an issue. In my eyes, you have a couple of options:

1. Stay in the relationship and enjoy it for what it is…a finite booty call.
2. Stay in the relationship and go enjoy other randoms and keep it casual.
3. Have a talk and let her know your stance and if you want to be a dedicated couple, this is not going to work out if she has him on the side. What comfort does she get from receiving his texts?
4. Don’t even bother talking and just tell her it’s over.

Honestly man, there are far too many people in this world to have to put up with behavior like that. If you’re just sticking around Calgary, go travel. You will meet so many more people that have so much more to offer if you’re not having any luck here.

[ExtraSlow]

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this guy is funny.

And good looking

[LilDrunkenSmurf]

Unsurprisingly the OP never came back after everyone told him he's getting shafted.