You need to consider the future and how quickly her needs may change. My mom moved in with us after my father passed away. At first it was great: she was able to help with housework, babysit, and we got to show her Calgary. However we noticed her memory was fading. Fast forward a couple months and she is diagnosed with early stage dementia. Thankfully that is progressing slowly, but in the past year she has fallen numerous times, had 2 TIA's, double pneumonia and Influenza B . Having her here is like having another child. (For instance if we want to go away overnight I have to arrange for someone to check on her in case she falls while home alone.)On the plus side while she was hospitalized after the first fall we were connected with home help. She has a nurse come in twice a week to bathe her, she has a walker and other mobility aides, and daycare once a week, all provided free of charge to her. It is damn stressful though. It takes a toll on you. If I am honest I think having mom live with me has more negatives than positives emotionally. Be sure of your decision and be honest with yourself about what is best for you and your wife.
Originally posted by rage2 in 2002
Shit, there's only 49 users here, I doubt we'll even break 100.