How much do you pull your weight around the house?

[nzwasp]

This is aimed at people that have a girlfriend/wife and/or with kids.

My wife was telling me that alot of her friends husbands and boyfriends do "fuck all" around the house or helping with the kids and alot of them still thank their husbands for getting the kids ready in the morning for school. Which in contrast to me and alot of my friends we all mostly cook all the meals, keep the house tidy, wash and fold all the clothes, and get the kids ready/put them to bed at night. Also when these other guys who dont do much are expected to do things that they take for granted it ends up as a complete shitshow and nothing gets done well or right.

So I wondered as far as beyond goes do alot of you guys pull your weight or does your wife do most things?

[killramos]

I consider myself lucky if my wife puts a coffee mug in the dishwasher.

But she does do laundry so that’s a plus?

[rx7boi]

Women do alot around the house. Ironically, this is also why men get so salty when divorcing stay-at-home moms because they're the ones that bring home the bacon while simultaneously undervaluing household work.

That said, my wife and I try to cook together whenever possible but she does most if not all of the laundry. Other things like dishes are mostly done by whoever gets to them first. We don't have a list of chore allocation but since her habits, values, and priorities are different from mine, she'll often have to ask me to do something because it bothers her more but contributing more is something I have to work on.

PS: we don't have kids as an added layer of complexity.

[A790]

I work 60-70 hour weeks and have meetings evenings/weekends. Wife handles almost all the cooking/cleaning. I'm funding our retirement.

[Shlade]

I am the backbone of my household.











Somebody love me plz

[tonytiger55]

Is it possible to add a 'No wife, happy life' option to the poll..?

[rx7boi]

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Is it possible to add a 'No wife, happy life' option to the poll..?

That's called the max_boost option.

[Tik-Tok]

Housework is about 70% me, 30% her. Anything to do with our daughter though is 90% her just because of my shift-work.

She says the same about her friends though. I think women just like to bitch when they're in a sewing circle. Or maybe there's just a whole lot of man-children around, which wouldn't surprise me either.

[nzwasp]

To be honest I havent heard of many Calgary fathers not pulling their weight it seems to be a trending edmonton thing.

[suntan]

Very common. Lots of dads can't cook at all and contribute nothing to housework. Especially in Chinese and East Indian families. And even if the wife works.

[Skrilla]

We are pretty even on all fronts except laundry, my wife usually tackles most of that when she has her days off. I don't cook much unless I get home first, plus she is an amazing cook. She comes from an old fashioned upbringing, her mom does everything, and she was hard to break of that, and still is to some extent. She always tries to do too much, and I have to remind her she isn't in the same relationship. I do the vehicle maintenance, yard work etc. Only thing I despise is painting, which she enjoys so it works for me!

[Asian_defender]

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I consider myself lucky if my wife puts a coffee mug in the dishwasher.

But she does do laundry so that’s a plus?

I'm in the same boat as this guy. If my girlfriend left, the only change in my life would be laundry

[HiTempguy1]

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. Which in contrast to me and alot of my friends we all mostly cook all the meals, keep the house tidy, wash and fold all the clothes, and get the kids ready/put them to bed at night.

So... What exactly do your wives/girlfriends do then?

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I'm an equal opportunity kind of guy, any previous long term girlfriends stuff was pretty equal between us. And I like to cook, rarely do I cook a bad meal.

You just make it sound like your situation is the exact opposite and you and your buddies are all your wives' bitches

[Perfect Dark]

I'm the driving force behind keeping our house organized but my fiancee handles all of the cooking as I'm fucking terrible at it haha.

[nzwasp]

Well since I travel sometimes for work for a week or 2 she does it all then when Im not around. My coworker has the same thing plus his wife has shift work too (nurse). Another coworker seems to have to do it all because his wife doesnt want to lift a finger/wants me time.

I also have my MIL sometimes doing dishes but its very inconsistent and often at 9pm when we are watching tv and shes banging around in the kitchen

[msommers]

"If I didn't do it nothing would get done"

Reality is she makes our lunches often, keeps the bathrooms clean, organizes/plans meals often, cooks probably more than 50/50.

I get groceries, clean and fold laundry, vaccuum, make and bring coffee in the morning, clean the kitchen/dishwasher a lot, garbage/recycling etc taken out more than 50/50, shovel more often than not.

But my largest contribution: ensuring the vehicles actually have gas in them. The amount of times I've gotten in to see one bar left only to then have the gas light come on in 5 minutes...I've lost track

Our expenses we split 50/50, she doesn't rely on anyone to pay for her shit and she works hard for her dollars.

[Misterman]

My wife is great about cooking and cleaning, doing laundry, all that stuff. But I definitely pitch in quite a bit with all those things, it's probably 60/40 her doing 60.

The thing I don't get about women, is how most of them seem to feel so hard done by when their husbands don't help. Like I don't expect her helping me mow the grass, shovel snow, fix her car, clean the garage and the vehicles. There is pink jobs and blue jobs. But a lot of women seem to want the best of both worlds, they want a man to do all the blue jobs, but also help with half the pink jobs.

My wife works full time too, even though I make 4 times what she does, she still puts her time in every week. So I feel obligated to help out with things. And I'm not some slob that leaves a mess all over the house either.

[max_boost]

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That's called the max_boost option.

It's the best option tho lol why have 1 main when you can have 5 sides?

This is great tho. Since we are all for everything equal, next girl better have her shit together. Wants to buy a house? I got my 50% lol where is yours?

Gone are the days where max_boost just blindly covers it all haha I am a changed man now. I only pay for youth. Over 30, we splitting the bills now.

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[lasimmon]

We both cook. We both do dishes. We both do laundry. She probably cleans a little more around the house and I do more of the 'man' stuff, fixing things installing things looking after stuff etc.

We like to both tackle things at the same time, like cooking supper and cleaning up after as its time spent together and takes less time.

She is on a much better career arc than I am though so things are likely to change. Especially when kids come.

[ExtraSlow]

I am a full-time house-husband. I do it all. She funds everything by working.