Originally Posted by
tirebob
My wife and I have lived on a single income for the entire 23 years we have been together short of little small periods of time where she has done part time work in a short term temporary capacity. Even when she has made a little income, we have still lived on a lot less than what most people here consider to be "good money" for a single salary.
I definitely don't begrudge anyone who have double incomes but I shake my head when I hear people say they can't make it on what amounts to well over double, or even triple what we have lived on our entire lives, and I don't feel like we have missed out on anything at all. Even if you disregard the massive benefit of having our kids raised in our home by parents who love them and are not paid employees and that have developed into amazing young adults who can look out for themselves and still love their parents and have healthy relationships between themselves, the life we built together on less has been equally fantastic.
Sure some of my buddies have some pretty impressive toys like 6 figure trucks and 50k fishing boats etc, but I still get to the lake with my 40k mid level F150 pulling my 25 year old $1500 tinny but I still outfish every one of those guys! lol! I don't live in a baller mansion but I have a sick property in the forest with a cool old house I am not scared to live in. I have been able to travel and experience amazing places. Basically I get to do all the things that all my double income friends do, I just do it a bit smarter, and if anything, I enjoy it a lot more because it isn't treated like an afterthought.
Money isn't everything and nobody is getting out of here alive, so I would rather focus on family and experience rather than chasing the almighty buck hoping I get to retire and use it. My dad made that gamble and ended up dying of cancer before he got to use all his hard work and missed a ton of his kids growing up. He always used to get down on me and my sister for living in the moment and not planning for the future like he did, but before he died he confided in my mom that he realized to late that maybe he was wrong and that while we maybe don't have as much in the bank, we had something he was never going to have, and that is time with his kids and memories in the bank. That always sticks with me.
In the end, do what you feel necessary, but the best advice is to think about what is actually important to you and commit, no matter what direction you go.