School me on being a Dad

[LilDrunkenSmurf]

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I mean if you guys are saying you're paying 0$ for babysitting with a SAHM you're really paying $60k+/year after tax or whatever your situation is. You can say 0$ for babysitting to feel better about it though

Retired inlaw = free babysitting. Not parenting, no losing income.

[killramos]

My parents and in laws do a bit of that

I still pay for full time daycare though because they aren’t reliable.

[LilDrunkenSmurf]

I'll get there soon enough. 8 months is a bit young for daycare, and the wife is still on mat leave.

[haggis88]

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I mean if you guys are saying you're paying 0$ for babysitting with a SAHM you're really paying $60k+/year after tax or whatever your situation is. You can say 0$ for babysitting to feel better about it though

costs me about $35k before tax

Probably couldn't get a nanny for that

[asp integra]

I was referring to babysitting and not day care. What does the typical teenage neighbour charge to watch kids for a few hours at night so you and the wife can grab a bite to eat kind of thing.

We have typically relied on my MIL or my sister for 99% of child watching, but my boys are at an age where we can leave them with a baby sitter and not have to worry. We also don't want to rely on family every time.

One girl replied saying $28 an hour which I thought was absurd. I've seen others at $15 which is much more palatable.

[killramos]

I’d say anything under $20/hr seems reasonable considering you would presumably want to see certifications ( first aid, babysitting course? I dunno ).

More than that and you might as well hire a professional nanny service or something.

[ExtraSlow]

min wage if it's someone over about 16, a kid from the neighborhood, maybe eight buck per kid or something? I dunno.

[Tik-Tok]

$15/hour is what we've paid.

Previously it was a neighbors kid who we knew for a few years before services were required. Unfortunately she grew up, turned 19 and moved downtown. Now we have access to another one, who is our dayhome providers 14yo daughter. I think she wants $15 as well, but we haven't needed her yet.

[Disoblige]

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$2400/mth for two kids

Wtf!

[jwslam]

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I mean it tends to be pretty obvious who the mother is…

Just saying.

[killramos]

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Wtf!

Please. I had daycares quote me more than that for one kid

[schurchill39]

My kids are a bit young for traditional babysitters but I think most of the people around here pay about $15 an hour for high school kids and $20ish for late teens early 20's (given they have all their certificates like first aid etc)

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Please. I had daycares quote me more than that for one kid

$1200 per kid is actually really reasonable especially if they are under 2 years old (24 months, 96 weeks for those beyonders who deal in weeks), and not bad if they are older than that. Our daycare is a not-for-profit so they automatically got the subsidies and we're down to like $550 for the one kid remaining but over the last 4 years we've been anywhere from $1450 per month down to $500 as it swings with the programs.

[max_boost]

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Wtf!

lol if I ever have kids ima raise them like how I was raised basically hope they make it, good luck lol

[bjstare]

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I mean if you guys are saying you're paying 0$ for babysitting with a SAHM you're really paying $60k+/year after tax or whatever your situation is. You can say 0$ for babysitting to feel better about it though

My comment was definitely not to help me feel better about our choice for my wife to be a SAHM haha. She would have to make way more than $60k after tax for us to feel like it's worth it to send her back to work. Like 5x more. Since that's not the case for us, I feel great about it, childcare cost avoidance notwithstanding.

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lol if I ever have kids ima raise them like how I was raised basically hope they make it, good luck lol

Sink or swim amirite?

[haggis88]

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My comment was definitely not to help me feel better about our choice for my wife to be a SAHM haha. She would have to make way more than $60k after tax for us to feel like it's worth it to send her back to work. Like 5x more. Since that's not the case for us, I feel great about it, childcare cost avoidance notwithstanding.

So much this

What's the point in having strangers raise our kids...it's bad enough they'll have Alberta accents, let alone whatever fobby accents are doing basement daycares these days

My wife has an arrangement with her work wherein she can work when I'm not out on the road, so long as she manages 4hrs per month. Keeps her sanity (and the staff discount).

[ExtraSlow]

Stay at home parent isn't a great choice for everyone.

[bjstare]

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Stay at home parent isn't a great choice for everyone.

Totally agree. But saying "if saying you're saving money on childcare helps you sleep at night" implies stay at home parent is not the right choice.

The right choice is the one that makes you and your wife stay sane and pay the bills.

[ExtraSlow]

Yeah for sure. If you make the choice purely on financial merits, that's also not what I'd call a winning strategy.

People love to criticize anyone who does it differently than they did.