School me on being a Dad

[ExtraSlow]

Send mom away to a hotel if you are serious about cry it out. Much easier for both parents without mom home.

[g-m]

At what point do you do the cry it out?

[killramos]

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At what point do you do the cry it out?

whenever you feel like it

[asp integra]

I ended up hiring a sleep trainer with my first at about 11 months since we did not have a single full night of sleep up to that point. My wife and I were literally going insane. He would sleep 1-2 hours max. Within the first week of using the sleep training plan he was sleeping 9 hours through the night. Best $400 I ever spent

Anyone wants a copy I will share it for free, gotta help out my fellow beyond dads.

[dirtsniffer]

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Our sleep training we used with our first was ferber method, basically the same method for second as well.

@dirtsniffer - so what was with the stroller picture?

Turns out she wanted to buy it "just in case we want to try".

But if that's not a sign I don't know what is.

[brucebanner]

Sounds like 1 of you definitely want to try

[bjstare]

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Turns out she wanted to buy it "just in case we want to try".

But if that's not a sign I don't know what is.

Well, she’s not subtle.

[ExtraSlow]

When my wife asked me what I thought of a third after our second, I booked my vasectomy consult the next morning. Told her she could have the third with someone else.

[LilDrunkenSmurf]

We used pickup/putdown method for our kid. It was 2-3 weeks of struggles, but again, 11 hours straight overnight, at 5months old, and I didn't pay $400 to someone else.

The way my sister described it, was what if you were put into a dark room and just left alone until you cried yourself to sleep.
Graduated extinction/Ferber was our backup. Pick up putdown is basically Ferber, except you pick up the kid to comfort them at scheduled intervals.

She goes down like a champ for all naps and overnight. Only issue we're having is the occasional early start (530am wakeups), but considering she goes down at 7:30pm, I won't complain too much.

[bjstare]

My kids are both good sleepers, we let them both cry it out.

My daughter is almost 6, and she still wakes up between 5:30-6:00 every day. She just likes being awake haha.

[haggis88]

We've been trying the GroClock thing with the wee man...he's an early riser too

He's understanding that he's able to get up and go to the bathroom any time he likes but is supposed to stay in bed until his "sunrise" on the GroClock which is like 7am

Problem occurs when he hears one of us up at the toilet or such at an earlier hour, or he gets up for a Tom Tit at 6am and shouts "WIPE MY BUM" til one of us hears him

People talk about potty training being a huge milestone, but by fuck I can't wait til he can wipe his own arse properly lol

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We used pickup/putdown method for our kid. It was 2-3 weeks of struggles, but again, 11 hours straight overnight, at 5months old, and I didn't pay $400 to someone else.

The way my sister described it, was what if you were put into a dark room and just left alone until you cried yourself to sleep.
Graduated extinction/Ferber was our backup. Pick up putdown is basically Ferber, except you pick up the kid to comfort them at scheduled intervals.

She goes down like a champ for all naps and overnight. Only issue we're having is the occasional early start (530am wakeups), but considering she goes down at 7:30pm, I won't complain too much.

This

Worked for us with all 3

The twins do well in the morning though, fucking love a lie-in <3

[arcticcat522]

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We've been trying the GroClock thing with the wee man...he's an early riser too

He's understanding that he's able to get up and go to the bathroom any time he likes but is supposed to stay in bed until his "sunrise" on the GroClock which is like 7am

We had a grow clock, but the little shit figured out how to make the "sun" shine whenever he wanted.....2 am, he would get up come into our bedroom and say time to get up, the sun is up

[riander5]

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We used pickup/putdown method for our kid. It was 2-3 weeks of struggles, but again, 11 hours straight overnight, at 5months old, and I didn't pay $400 to someone else.

The way my sister described it, was what if you were put into a dark room and just left alone until you cried yourself to sleep.
Graduated extinction/Ferber was our backup. Pick up putdown is basically Ferber, except you pick up the kid to comfort them at scheduled intervals.

She goes down like a champ for all naps and overnight. Only issue we're having is the occasional early start (530am wakeups), but considering she goes down at 7:30pm, I won't complain too much.

Thats how we saw it too. Kids certainly do cry, but they don't cry just to be assholes. They obviously need something. To just ignore it justifying 'kids gun cry' is wild to me. But at the same time, being a completely sleep deprived zombie parent is also not good for you or the kid, so I get it when people sleep train.

Never worked for us.

Now 3 years later we've discovered our kid has giant addenoids and can barely breath at night (when I sleep with her she almost wakes every 5 minutes). No amount of sleep training would have helped her breathe better.

Addenoids out in 2 weeks - hoping for big improvement.

[LilDrunkenSmurf]

Yeah, you can't do much for physical challenges like that. Kiddo picked up a cold last week, and was constantly waking because her nose was plugged. Can't fault her for that.

[Tik-Tok]

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They obviously need something. .

Unless it's night terrors, which is what ours had every single night until she was almost 2-1/2 years old. Nothing would console her, nothing would stop the screams. She never even knew she was doing it.

[ExtraSlow]

Night terrors are wild. Never knew that was a thing till the one kid had em. Just terrible.

[killramos]

I wholeheartedly disagree with the premise that kids cant cry to be assholes lol

[bjstare]

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I wholeheartedly disagree with the premise that kids cant cry to be assholes lol

Yeah they definitely can, from a younger age than most people would expect.

[Darell_n]

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Night terrors are wild. Never knew that was a thing till the one kid had em. Just terrible.

Agreed. Straight out of a horror movie, minus the crawling up a wall onto the ceiling. (that I can disclose here)

[ExtraSlow]

Yeah, it's my opinion that kids may cry for many different reasons. Not about the kid "being an asshole", or "needing something". Or at least to me it's not about that.

If you think every time the kid makes a noise, that you need to jump up and save the day, well, that's not my outlook on life.