This parenting pissing match is a slippery slope and can definitely get heated so I'll keep my remarks general and not directed to anyone in particular.
Before I had kids (gawd that seems like a long time ago) I had some pretty strong opinions on all kinds of parenting scenarios. One thing I've learned over the years is that until you walk a mile in another family's shoes it's pretty hard to know all the facts involved. Things aren't always as they appear and there can be a lot of contibuting factors that nobody else is aware of. I tend to be much less critical of others when it comes to their kids. I'm happy with how we are doing things at home and it's up to everyone else to deal with their own kids. What works for one family may not be appropriate in another household. And I don't think it's anyone else's business to tell me if what we're doing is right or wrong. You keep your nose out of my house and I'll keep my nose out of yours.
Happy Halloween!
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