My message never changed, I only elaborated because a grown ass man like yourself can't read a post without needing a disclaimer spoonfed to you that not every post applies to everyone, but can apply to some. That's not "going back" or "saying something other than what you meant" or "correcting what I said."
You started barking up the wrong tree when you basically pulled a Cathy Newman with "so what you're saying is all couples with joint accounts never talk about purchases" which is a pretty fucking stupid thing to assert or to suggest that someone else is asserting.
You were pretty much dead wrong when you followed it up with "you're assuming that spending is something to hide." No one said anything about hiding, ever, or at least I didn't.
Your responses were incredibly tone deaf.
I don't really like going around in circles so you can think whatever you think, but anyone reading can see that I never referenced or implied that having separate accounts means you're trying to hide something from the other person.